Sara Bareilles - She Used To Be Mine (Official Video)

My daughter committed suicide this time last December and I only found this song by chance last week not knowing anything about the musical. Lots of the lyrics are so appropriate and describe how she found herself in her journey through life which we as a family didn't know about. Those closest to her, her children, partner, ex partner eventually broke her spiritually, emotionally, financially to the point where she presumably saw no other way out to end the pain she was hiding and suffering. We miss her deeply and Christmas for us will never be the same again. Time doesn't heal the mental torment such events befall on families, if she had only cried out for help but alas this was not to be and life goes on within you and without you. I hope I get the chance to see the musical some day but time's running out for me as well at 70+ but at least I now have this wonderful song in my life. To avoid any confusion as seems to be the case with some of the very kind responses I have received, this comes from her father and not her mother.

Accidentally played this song. Gotta say this is the best accident that ever happened in my life.

My daughter sang this tonight for her recital at school. She's been battling an eating disorder for the last year and a half and finally confessed to us a little over a month ago. Needless to say, this song made me cry during her singing. So many parts of the lyrics speak to her and it breaks my heart that she's suffered for so long alone and didn't trust me enough to share with me this disorder. I long for the day she finds herself again and can live a healthy life and see just how beautiful and precious she is. If she could see herself through my eyes, she would never doubt her self worth. To all of those girls and boys who doubt yourself and struggle, to someone in this world, you are the best thing that happened to them and if you could see yourself in their eyes you would know your worthy. May God Bless your paths.

Understatement: This lady knows how to write songs.

Dear Self, Don’t give up on me, please. We’ve been through a lot and I know we’ll get through this storm again. I know it’s so hard and it’s messed up right now, but please, forgive yourself. Let them go. It’s never too late to start over. I love you. I love you so much! We can do this. We’ll be free and happy. Genuinely. Soon! ♡ xoxo, me :))

This song simply hit a place in my soul that I did not know I had.

Just a dad who ran into this song... and can't stop listening to it. I have 4 daughters and know I can't protect them forever. I think we can all relate to the message of this, that life will beat us up and we gotta find our strength through it

Im 47 and this song sums up me now. Life has an effect. I was once hopeful, a romantic, a believer in happy endings. And I miss her.

In 1967 I was 8 years old. My stepdad began molesting me. That’s when my spirit died and I became someone other than I was supposed to be. I became an alcoholic around age 17. My life was so full of chaos, struggles and losing things forever. I’m now 62 and I’ve been sober for over 11 years. I have two beautiful children who help guide me. I know who I am today. I’m a very strong woman today. My life’s journey made me that way. This song is so relatable and I’m OK. My faith in God saved my life a very long time ago. That little girl has stopped crying. I now love that little girl. I see her every time I look in the mirror and I’m proud of who I’ve become 🙏♥️.

"she is good but she lies" "She is messy but she's kind" basically me

A dad with two boys. Crushed by this. I keep playing it when no one’s around. Wife thought it was a religious song. Are deep feelings religious or “spiritual?”The depth of some of her music moves deeply me.

I used to listen to this last 2021. I can still remember clearly how scared, broken, and lost I am that time. And now it's 2024, I tried to listen to it again. I'm happy to share that I'm not scared and broken anymore. I think, I have finally healed from those secret wounds of mine. I made it!!!!☺️❤️

I had a classmate named Sofiya. Once I was yelled at by my teacher and classmates and had an anxiety attack. I was about to cry but she hugged me, a hug that I still feel up to now, it was the most comforting hug ive ever felt. I have never thought of dying, it has always occured to me that I will reach my dreams first before I even die. It was Sunday, I was so happy being able to go to a trip with my class. I went to my best friends house, she showed me the picture my classmates were uploading saying may she rest in peace. I genuinely thought it was a joke, I got angry bc its not something to joke about. I still can't believe it until we went outside. My teacher came up to us with a soft voice, like she was afraid we might break. I still remember the burst of emotions I had I want to stop crying because I don't want to believe it, but I can't. My body felt heavy once the cold air of the venue creeped through my skin. Her name. Her name was there in the chapel. We went up. I saw her picture, I covered my mouth and plugged my earphones, I can't cry, I have no right to cry, this is her family's mourning moments I shouldn't ruin it. It took a while to muster up the courage to see her lying there, lifeless. She's so pale. Her left face is almost destroyed. It was a car crash. But she still looks like an angel. It strucked me. How life is short. How lucky I am to be alive. How much pain I'm feeling. How she affected me even if we're not close friends. Sofiya, you really do shine brightly.

Who's listening to this in 2020 ?.....one of the songs I'm taking with me this year

This song helped me get through my divorce. My daughter sent this to me saying this is ME. She was only 14 then, now she’s a full pledged executive assistant to an international company. Both of us hold on to this song. We moved on, grew up and get back on a life better than what we left behind. ❤❤❤

Heard this sung by a young lady at my daughter's end-of-year concert and found it hugely moving.

I feel like she's still a little bit underrated as an artist. Yeah she's been nominated in the Grammys but I don't think she's got enough exposure that she deserves. I hope that more people will appreciate and love her music.

Does anybody ever feel they just need a good cry? Like, voluntarily cry? This never fails me when I need one

It's not simple to say Most days I don't recognize me These shoes and this apron That place and its patrons Have taken more than I gave 'em It's not easy to know I'm not anything like I used to be Although it's true I was never attention sweet center I still remember that girl She's imperfect but she tries She is good but she lies She is hard on herself She is broken and won't ask for help She is messy but she's kind She is lonely most of the time She is all of this mixed up And baked in a beautiful pie She is gone but she used to be mine It's not what I asked for Sometimes life just slips in through a back door And carves out a person And makes you believe it's all true And now I've got you And you're not what I asked for If I'm honest I know I would give it all back For a chance to start over And rewrite an ending or two For the girl that I knew Who be reckless just enough Who can hurt but Who learns how to toughen up when she's bruised And gets used by a man who can't love And then she'll get stuck and be scared Of the life that's inside her Growing stronger each day 'Til it finally reminds her To fight just a little To bring back the fire in her eyes That's been gone but it used to be mine Used to be mine She is messy but she's kind She is lonely most of the time She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie She is gone but she used to be mine

I am male, 38, and so very not pregnant. And this song resonates with me in ways not a lot of music does. I found it on tiktok by chance (thought the melody was haunting), but then I listened to the full song one day driving to work. Every word hit so hard I started to cry. I really do think there are many, many ways people can listen to this and find meaning for their own lives. It makes me long for the person I was, for the chances (and people) I lost, but it also makes me want to keep going and fight just a little. Its an amazing, amazing song.