This Design Theory Can Help You Create a Happier Home

That is exactly what I did 7 years ago after leaving an abusive marriage. I bought a small condo and had it completely gutted. I had owned 5 different homes in my life and knew what worked and what didn't for me and I knew that I would NOT be entertaining in this place because it is small. Every decision I made was for me alone. Seven years later and I'm still loving it. It is my refuge It brings me joy.

I am repainting my apt, adding some new light fixtures, making a cabinet for the bathroom and more. I'm not telling anyone because I want it to be a secret and I dont want any unasked opinions offered to me about what I choose. So the idea of a secret room, new to me, seems spot on!!❤

It is so interesting, how we arrange our homes to " impress" others ....ideally you should walk in your home thinking "ah, here are things that make me smile : my favorite colors my favorite books, my favorite materials , my favorite heirlooms, photos and posters , my collection of kitchy souvenirs , round pebbles, bottle-lids or what ever .....simply a place where you sre allowed to play ( do that polka- dotted wall...) , and where entering make you happy and relaxed ...We are under the influence and rules of others during our working hours, and that should be enough 😊.....Every time I see a home or studio of an artist it is almost invarably a 'collection ' that is so individual , and not store- bought .....

“Cue this debate on the color grey now” LOL 😂😂😂

I rarely comment on videos, but wanted to express how much I enjoyed your video. It feels very refreshing compared to others. Thanks!

You are so easy to listen to and I really enjoy your cadence and content. Im truly surprised you have less than 1k subscribers. I thought it said 889k not 889. Youre definitely going places if you keep making content regularly!

I think i have always just designed for myself. I use magazines and the internet for ideas of how but ultimately what I do is for me. I liked this video because there’s always ways to improve how we express ourselves and cultivate comfort.

Love the positivity!

This is pure gold. Thanks ❤

My uneducated guess is that independent individuals do create their homes as they want. They ate not interested in opinions of others. But majority of population is very influenced or rather dependable on others’ opinion. And you have to be a psychologist to try to free these people from their insecurities.

Happy to see another thoughtful video from you. I mostly agree, but also slightly disagree, with your initial remarks. In general, I think that critique is a valuable tool that helps us all improve. I also think that how a person chooses to live is their business, and that extends beyond even the most valid of "objective critiques," because even if something is absolutely bad design by any metric, even if every aspect is ugly and clashes with every other thing (I'm just trying to imagine a hypothetical Platonic Ideal of tasteless mishmash in design), if that's how you choose (emphasis on "choose") to live, it really is none of anyone's business. In between is where the fun starts. If you're selling something, or doing promotion of some type, then judgment is just part of the deal and is generally morally neutral. If a critique is educational and not just "eww, I hate that" then it has positive value, even when expressing a negative view. Pointing out mistakes and explaining why something does or doesn't work or how to better achieve a desired goal is a good teaching aid. Then there's personal taste, and not confusing it with quality or fact. This is where I think some people stumble a bit, and where I'm guessing some of your frustration with some YouTube content comes from (I'm ignoring the "eww, ugly" people as they're not talking design, just mocking people). If a Japandi-loving minimalist was doing a review of a Rococo-loving maximalist's home, I would expect them to understand the principles, values, and philosophy behind the choices made, and judge the quality of the design according to those parameters and that aesthetic, rather than according to how it failed to be a well-designed minimalist Japandi home, because it wasn't trying to be that in the first place. This can become very tiresome. You know those ornate chandeliers of the type you'd expect to see in a costume drama ballroom? The huge sparkly things with hanging bits of crystal that look like they could hold candles? I don't know what they're called, and I don't really like them. However, I do recognize the fact that some people love those things, and that like any item, they can be well made or badly made, they can go with the décor and architecture or not, they can be positioned in a more or less visually pleasing way, more or less effectively create a desired effect, serve their purpose well or not, etc. So just the other day I was watching someone review one of those celebrity home tour videos, and he also doesn't like those chandeliers, which were a staple in that particular home. It was obvious the home owner loved them. And the reviewer just had to reiterate how much he disliked them, in every room, to the point that it started bothering me, despite agreeing with him. The thing is, I wasn't learning anything new, and he had no insight into this feature, except to say what light fixtures he would've preferred instead, which is kinda like the hypothetical minimalist I was talking about. I just found it demoralizing to listen to. I think I've rambled long enough. Apologies. Thanks for the introduction to the secret room concept.

Perfect channel, so happy I found you :-)

Currently working around designing a space that suits the preferences of both me and my spouse ☺️ any tips for this?

I am struggling with this so much. Since I plan on renting out from time to time, or having guests over that also should feel happy. But since I have an energylimiting illness and I need to be laying down mostly, a place for me would look radically different to a place we are used to. Like I don't need chairs or tables but chillzones, daybed, office in bed 😂 and want to make it look like a design choice not a Sanatorium.

tuned in .... thank you. Ditched the mid America yuck