The Narcissism Doctor: “1 in 6 People Are Narcissists!” How to Spot Them & Can They Change?
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Published 2024-06-18
Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a clinical psychologist & Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, and the Founder & CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is also the author of books such as "It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People."
Dive deep into the dangerous world of narcissism and discover how to spot narcissistic behavior, protect yourself from emotional trauma, identify the 6 types of narcissists, and learn about their covert tactics, like gaslighting and deprivation.
We’re breaking down the alarming rise in narcissism, its connection with addiction, the risks in online dating and why we often miss red flags in harmful relationships.
Dr. Durvasula explains the true definition of narcissism and gaslighting, the negative impact of being raised by narcissistic caregivers, how trauma bonding can evolve from a parent-child relationship to an adult romantic relationship, and the most disturbing aspects of being in a romantic relationship with a narcissist.
She also covers:
- Her top tips for being GASLIGHT-PROOF
- What grandiosity and lack of empathy really looks like in a relationship
- Who is most at risk for attracting narcissists?
- Why online dating is the perfect preying ground for narcissists
- The biggest challenges narcissists face in therapy
- Once you’re diagnosed as a narcissist, is that the nail in the coffin?
- How to have compassion for the narcissist in your life and find a way to engage while sticking to your boundaries
- Post-separation abuse and why some people may stay with a narcissist
- Harmful institutions that are contributing to the narcissism problem
- Why chemistry isn’t the most important thing in a relationship
- Why she thinks so many people are interested in narcissism now
Dr. Durvasula wants you to know that YOU are not the problem.
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CHAPTERS:
0:00 - Intro
4:43 - True Definition of Narcissism
10:18 - D.I.M.M.E.R.
17:24 - The 6 Types of Narcissists
25:39 - How Prevalent is Narcissism?
28:38 - Can Narcissists Change?
37:35 - Narcissistic Parent
46:00 - Why Do People Stay?
52:50 - Narcissism and Online Dating
1:00:10 - Gaslighting
1:04:22 - How to Be Gaslight-Proof
1:10:36 - Trauma Bonding
1:23:26 - Why are People So Interested in Narcissism?
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All Comments (21)
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Dr. Ramani Durvasula helped me so much after my divorce from a narcissist. I couldn’t understand what happened until I found her on YouTube. After listening to her for hours, I understood and was able to move on without feeling guilty. When he tried to get back in my life, I was able to see through his every move and not allow him to creep back in.
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Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
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Vulnerable narcissists are the worst to be around. They mess with your sanity and are envious of others who are successful. They passive aggressively bring you down to their level and below.
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The narc I divorced and am still living with until our son goes off to college in a month, literally does not say ONE WORD to me. Not in private, and not when our son is around. This is a 67 year old person. A 67 year old who acts like a petulant child. I can not WAIT to be away from this toxic, horrific BABY.
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Yep. The child is neglected every day and every interaction. As a child, there was no safe space - except being alone. This has made me very content to be alone.
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30 years with a malignant narcissist. Gaslighting to the point I did question my sanity. When I finally decided to leave he couldn’t take it. I had a mammogram that was abnormal. He told me it was “karma”. Talk about lack of empathy. 8 years free. Some of the best of my life 🙏🏻. Praise God I, and my children, got out.
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Key word!!!! They are not capable of giving you what you need. It will never happen.
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Divorced a malignant narcissist after decades of gaslighting, financial abuse, control, etc. Had to leave my home in secret with my child and pets just to survive. It was so worth it to gain my freedom and discover my peace of mind❤
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Dr. Ramani is the GOAT on the topic of narcissism.
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It was so validating to hear Dr Ramani say some of her patients are waiting for one to die. That's how I felt about my mom. It was tough when she finally did die at 92. The grief I felt wasn't that she was gone, but that she would never say I was ok. It's been 3 years and I can finally see she had some good qualities, but I don't miss her and I'm glad she's gone!
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Hollow empathy! 🔥Perfect description and a huge hoover. They convince you they care and ... they don't. They just don't.
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4:34 No freinds, no relationship, prefer to be a lone wolf, and im very peaceful and joyful from it. Peace to all of you that do the same
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Been listening to Dr. Ramani for a few years now… I’ve said goodbye to two narcissistic people in my life. Appreciate her so much.
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Thank you for stating to “throw out the back story!” No excuses for bad behaviors!
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Dr Durvasula's book "It's Not You" has changed how I am in the world. She's given me validation I didn't know I needed. I knew my ex- husband (no kids) was a narcissist master gas lighter but reading this book I saw how I was "groomed" by a narcissist from birth. Needles to say tough but satisfying to finally start healing. BTW I'm 64.
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Thankyou for the reminder that we must accept that there will not be change. Some are born without Empathy.
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This is one of the best interviews of Dr. Ramini Durvasula. What an amazing individual and human being.
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I used to be happy with my family, but the longer I live the more I realise how many ways I have been treated disrespectfully and the sadder I become.
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Dr Ramani’s videos and books helped me so much after I left a 30 year toxic marriage - understanding narcissistic abuse helped me make sense of what had happened to me. Four years free now 🎉
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I think that Dr. Ramani should receive a Nobel Peace Prize. She is making such an enormous contribution to society. So thankful for her!
