I am 23 and feel like a failure | breakdowns on my birthday, wanting to quit & a recovery chat

Are you kidding? you have so so many people watching you heal and grow, and it helps them. In no way are you a failure. You help so many!

listening to your mom say those things to you healed a part of my inner child. i grew up speaking mandarin with my parents too but was always told to work harder, to never take a break, and was always compared to others around me. and i feel so similarly to you, i'm also 23, have no clue what i want to be doing, but this video reminded me that i'm definitely not alone and that i'm enough. thank you linda and happy birthday! and thank you mother sun!

your mum's words made me cry.It was like a warm embrace i needed.

I'm 32 and still have no idea what I want to do or where I'm going but you live day by day, do what makes you happy and be more present. The rest will fall into place.

“when i was 13, i thought i’d be in love by 23, and i guess … she was right” this had me CRYIN, it struck such a chord! SHEESH 😭😭😭

"why is my brain like this?" this is the thing that struck out the most in this video. you have no idea how many times i felt that i am broken, my thoughts are broken, i will never succeed because i don't even know what i want to succeed in. everyone has goals, everyone has found their passion and i don't have a single thing that i would want to continue doing in the future. you're not the only one who's lost linda, you're strong, you're compassionate and you are enough. you make people like me feel like we're not alone and i want to thank you.

Your chat with your mom is so healing and she is right you are more admired than you know!!

I just wanted to say…I’m 37 and the way you’re feeling is totally normal. You’re not a failure or weird. You are a driven woman and have high expectations for yourself. People NOT having these feelings in their early twenties may wake up later in life and realize they were keeping their heads down and carrying on with what they were “supposed” to do…then it’s even heavier because it starts to feel too late to adjust. I would be grateful you’re having the feelings now…you’re so emotionally intelligent and in touch! We love you!

Don't mind me I'm just here to drop a few quotes of the oxherd boy webcomic cause why not🧚‍♀️🧚‍♀️ "Have you ever noticed," asked the boy "that nature never rushes and yet all thing are accomplished?" "How do you know which path to take?" the rabbit asked. "Maybe there is no path" replied the boy. "Maybe the path is simply made by walking" "Sometimes, it feels like I have no idea what I'm doing" the ox admitted. "Maybe that's OK," said the rabbit. "Maybe that just means that you are alive."

Maybe this is weird but as someone with autism that constantly feels lost and like a failure I try to think of it like flowers. Each flower grows at their own pace, requires different needs more water less sun etc. each flower can only truly bloom in certain seasons. You can’t rush it or change it! Maybe sometimes they have a few dead branches every now and again but they always keep on growing. Please never feel like a failure you are doing so much you have grown so much you still are growing so much. You are incredible Linda you help so many and I hope one day you can help yourself just as much. You deserve it!

When I turned 23 I blasted “what’s my age again” while day drinking to prep myself for the host shift at chilis, in central Florida between two sundown towns and was the only black woman/black person within a 30 mile radius. My (ex) boyfriend was cheating on me and I knew it but I had no home to return to. I’m turning 29 this year and soon will finally be able to kiss my 20s goodbye; don’t believe the hype it’s the worst years of your life but it lays the foundation to build a sense of self. You’ll figure it out!

Hey !! I’m 25 and turn 26 soon, I’ve taken so many career turns and changes, moved so many times in my life, failed relationships and more I’ve had to start my life from stratch over and over again, but also that was hard doing alone I wouldn’t change it for anything, life isn’t about being perfect or knowing what your doing 24/7. It’s about enjoying your life with people you love and you’ll find you’ll natural change and grow around the right people. Do I know 100% what I wanna be? No! And I trust it because I know if I continue doing what I love everyday my life will continue to grow in the way it should, 23 is so young, man 25 is so young, don’t beat yourself up you’re doing amazing sweetie x

Your videos are so cinematic and calming to watch. I appreciate how much you put on the internet for the people who need u. Stay gorgeous, we love u Lin ❤❤❤

listening to you on that call with mom sun honestly made me cry so hard because i'm currently experiencing what you're also going through and listening to her comfort you was so healing. it's hard to explain how hard it feels everyday to really think what you're doing is useless since you have no idea where you'll end up, what your plans are, what the point of all this is. it's been like this for the past year and half bc of uni and i really want to quit but i also feel like i failed, i'm failing. i really want to do stuff when everyone around me is so successful but i know i never try hard enough. i'm sorry for venting but i think i really needed this video, or actually your videos are always so therapeutic and everytime i'm feeling down i always come back here where i feel safe and validated. thank you linda

I am old enough to be your mother and YOU inspire me!!!! PLEASE do NOT be so hard on yourself!!! Listen to your mother who is such a wonderful mom, encouraging you and reminding you that YOU are ENOUGH!!!! I would love to have a mom support me as much as your mother supports you!!! Please look at the blessings you have in your life-breaks my heart to see such a beautiful young woman with so much wisdom doubt herself!!! You have so much to be proud of and this community appreciates you!!!❤

First, I love your videos. Second of all, I am turning 50 at Christmas this year and I still struggle with these things. We have these expectations and whatever else, and life doesn't work out the way you want it to. Be an achiever while others are just left in the dust. We live in a very agist world where we throw away anything and everything that we're done with. You are never too old to set a new goal, dream a new dream, or achieve. Just because there are people out there who tell you that you should be ashamed of certain things are negative and hate themselves and put down your self esteem because it makes them feel good about themselves. Live the dreams. Be who you want to be and don't let others who failed let you feel bad. You CAN.

From the agesof 23 to 30 I beat myself up for being a "failure" I've turned 34 now and no, I don't feel like a success but I know now that berating myself through my 20s was so sad. You're so young and you have so much time even though it doesn't FEEL like it. You do!

girl, just want let you know that you are not alone! But we will handle this! Because we strong! ❤❤

Your mom‘s words are so soothing

Im 20 years old. Im struggling with my dad's cancer and my grandsma's alzheimer at the same time. I work and study online, at the same time. And still, theres people who don't even care and think that Im doing nothing. People will always talk, they always are going to find a way to make you feel less special. But Linda you are special, even if you dont know yet what to do, you're still trying to know. And not everybody trys. Love you!