How I Survived My Ex-Wife's Murder Plot | Minutes With

This subject of abuse on men needs to be addressed more in all media. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Wow, this hit hard. 26 Years in a marriage here to a lady who was wonderful initially, and gave me an amazing son. But as years went on i suffered 20 odd years of abuse. Ive been punched, smacked, kicked. All day long every day it was "you this, you that", im so useless, etc etc. After a while you start to believe it. In the end it was actually her who said she wanted a divorce stating "she was unhappy with me". Very funny. I think it was eventually she ran out of ways to abuse me.

Thank you Rob for being willing to share your story as a male survivor of domestic abuse. I am also a survivor and it breaks my heart that men don't get the same sympathy as women do in this arena. I'm glad you are alive. EDIT: the amount of healing you have reached moved me to tears Rob. You are such a beautiful individual and your daughter is very lucky to have you.

After surviving an abusive relationship its sad to admit that things happen so fast and before you know it youre trapped

I hope their daughter grows up as healthy and as stable as possible cos the trauma she must’ve gone through while her mum was free then finding out her mum tried to kill her dad is madness

Thank you to Rob for taking part in this episode.

Young people really need to be taught how to spot the signs and recognize them in their friends. We all know someone in a similar/ if less severe situation

This is chilling. I went through exactly this (bar the murder plot) with my ex. Like he says, it starts off small and builds up incrementally. Then eventually after 2 years, I was cut off from my family who i’ve always been very close too, I never saw my friends, I couldn’t even have my squash how I wanted it, she had access to all of my social media, banking apps, emails, even my linkedin! I one day woke up and tried to leave and she blocked off the doors and said if I touched her she’d call the police. I managed to get around her without touching her and she chased me out of the house. She then called me and said she’s cancelled my car insurance. A truly evil person and this account was incredible with how much it mirrored my own experience with a cohersivally controlling relationship. Any of you out there going through this, it’s not right and you have to speak to people and escape. Thank you for sharing.

If a relationship feels too intense too fast get out of there asap

He has an amazing way of speaking. He chooses his words carefully and he phrases things so concisely. Shows a very high level of intelligence, which he clearly has. I wish this man nothing but peace and happiness in his future. I hope his daughter grows up knowing that even though her mom sucks, she's got a great father who loves her.

Rob, I am so sorry you were abused. Women who abuse men often get away with it because society doesn't view women as capable of abusing me, but they can and clearly do. You are brave!!!!

i wish i could be as forgiving as him, i still despise her after 12 years. i have managed to understand the 'why' but i can simply not accept she did all those things to me. i applaud your positive attitude, i envy it, you are such a strong and gentle man, you deserve the world

Planning to kill someone rather than just ending the relationship seems crazy.

What I hate about abusive relationships, both men and women, is that after the relationship is done, that person can no longer trust the other gender and it totally scars their view on them as a whole and it’s a shame because ultimately 90% of people wouldn’t ever think of acting in that way

I was in an abusive relationship, and I felt so silenced. I felt silenced for years after, too, like the weight of the words I had to say was too much to breathe into the universe. Thank you for speaking up, Rob.

Well done to the guy for speaking up. Takes a huge amount of courage to do so. The healing process is an incredibly tough slog.

So many men are suffering abuse and stay silent, aren't believed etc. this man is so brave and anyone going through this please talk to someone that loves you and get help. YOU DESERVE To be SAFE, HAPPY, HEALTHY etc

Oh yeah. I remember seeing this on a police documentary, Victoria being unbelievably manipulative in every single sense of the word, including with the police. Thank god this woman was caught before she could instigate any further damage to this man, to his life and family. I hope he is healing from the abuse and the trauma that came from this terrifying situation. 🙏🏼❤️

Rob explained SO well what I went through for 14 years to my ex husband. The abuse starts out so slow, and it's so insidious....it's hard to explain to another person...but he did a fabulous job. Rob, I'm so sorry for what you've been through but it needs to be known that in this type of abuse , there is no respecter of persons, race, male or female, rich or poor, it doesn't matter 😢 Everyone/Anyone is a possible target.

The way this lad articulates himself he should be doing documentaries or something. Keep on going Rob mate :-)