Love At First Text

"Hi." BURP Off to a great start.

“Im an empath” Bullet dodged. Bullet the size of a train

“I am an empath” -The worst fucking person you will ever meet

Any type of trauma or mental illness isn’t your fault, but it IS your responsibility. Especially if it starts causing hurt toward others who are completely innocent. Hope she got help.

“Hi 🤮 been thinking about you lately “

Bro didn't dodge the bullet, he matrixed the whole fucking magazine.

"you'll never meet someone like me again" Thank GOD

Person with BPD here. Even though she says she's in therapy the way she's acting is a untreated form of bpd. I'm 30 now and have been in courses, groups, intensive treatment and therapy for the disorder since I was 21/22, helps that I'm a nerd that loves learning and doing homeworklol, anyway I actually find it hard to be around certain others with bpd now since getting help. We have what we call 'filters' and you do a test to find out what the most prominent filters are. Mine were self hatred and abandonment filter. Where my friend marked up the most with the entitlement filter. This girl seems like she would probably be abandonment and entitlement filter (theres others too but here just a couple examples). The entitlement filter is one of the hardest to deal with in my eyes. Because they constantly feel like the world owes them everything and they act like they are so hard done by (which obviously having this disorder is hard but they do it to a extreme), like the word 'no' is a hate crime. The child like tantrums ect. It drives me nuts. Again as having bpd myself I understand the struggle of dealing with it but that doesn't mean it's not totally unbearable lol. I've really progressed with my abandonment filter, especially since i was litterally abandoned by a partner while i was fighting for my life in hospital and I didn't even flinch, yay growth! Haha but the self hatred is the one i still struggle with. I'm now in a place where I probably could have a partner as I've learnt to communicate and manage my feelings but you have to be self aware enough to realise when you're not. Which takes us back to that entitlement filter "oh someone should just deal with my constant bullshit all the time and still love me, i deserve it!". Um no, you have to compromise and do better for yourself so you can do better in your relationships.

The minute she got angry over a good morning text, would've been the last text I ever sent to her, because that's just a great indicator of future problems.

CRIED laughing at the abrupt "oh, I'm farting"

it's really refreshing to see someone online be this sympathetic towards people with BPD whenever i see it mentioned it's quickly followed by others saying that people with BPD are horrible manipulative monsters, so it was really good to see Charlie talk about it with kindness towards the disorder, while still making it VERY CLEAR that this woman is in no way ready for any kind of romantic relationship

A lot of people who have very strong emotions/feelings confuse it with being high in empathy or being an “empath”. Yes, many people who are emotional/sensitive are also high in empathy, but they are COMPLETELY different things. This woman here completely lacked any kind of empathy even though she clearly had feelings in spades.

Being too busy to text in the morning made this guy dodge a bullet.

Mental illness is actually terrifying. My uncle went out with a girl in his twenties. They went out on two dates and then he didn't call her for two or three days because he was very busy with work. Forth night, he woke up to her standing over his bed, sobbing, and holding a kitchen knife. Somehow he was able to talk her down and ended up driving her back to her mothers house who apologized to him and said she was mentally ill. He said that he really liked her and that she seemed completely normal on their two dates. 100% true story. Very scary stuff

As someone who's dated people with BPD this guy handled it so well, I for my part got gaslit so many times that it had negative effects on my own mental health. That man is a good example on how to handle and interact with others

TBH I disagree with the idea that just because she has a mental illness she can't at all be blamed for her extremely toxic actions. I have had struggles with mental illness my whole life, and one of the first things I learned is you need that self-reflection. Just because I am feeling bad, disassociating, overthinking, etc. it doesn't ever give me an excuse to treat other people like trash. You need to hold yourself to a higher standard, otherwise how do you expect to ever get better? Being coddled and given an excuse for poor behavior every time will never allow for growth.

The burp at 0:38 and the farts at 8:17 reminded me that I have the sense of humor of a child

I had a 'fight or flight' response as soon as i saw the words 'spiritual energy', 'soulmate' and 'therapy' in one screenshot

I genuinely hope this man is doing well and that he finds someone that deserves him. He seems like such a sweet person 🥺

Yep. I was in a relationship with someone who had BPD. This happened daily. Unless you can literally see into the future you will not be able to make someone with BPD happy. One wrong word (or even the absence of a word), calling or texting a minute too late (or too early), wearing the wrong clothes, ordering the wrong thing at a restaurant, literally anything can, and will eventually be, interrupted as “I don’t love you”