3 Tactics of Controlling Parents ... and Ways to Handle and Heal

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I'm 22 and I still get anxiety over how my mom will react to literally ANYTHING I do that I know she won't like.

Controlling people love to use money as a weapon.

Controlling parents deserve every ounce of pain they get when their adult offspring finally wake up to their abusive BS, and pull the plug on the relationship with them. These people truly disgust me!

We need to do better when we become parents. The cycle must break.

Strategy #1 Run. Never look back.

I’m so tired physically tired dealing with my mom.

i wish i could just remove myself from the situation and say “i’m gonna go” but i can’t even go for a walk by myself or go in my car or stay over at my friends, they restrict me so much i’m trapped. my room isn’t even a safe place for me anymore.

My parents are SO manipulative. Every time I try to do something they don’t like they guilt trip me and gang up on me. They make things up to make me look bad then when I try to defend myself they tell me I’m disrespectful. When I try to tell them that I’m hurt by their actions they make me feel dumb and dramatic. Idek what to do at this point.

My mother makes it really difficult for me to think freely and be open-minded.

As soon as you try to move away and distance yourself from their disresprect, they start yelling, screaming and shouting: COME BACK!

I Feel like my parents try to buy me with material things.

When you become an adult and a parent tries to constantly control you this type of parent is weak and needs a reality ✔......

I'm literally in tears because this is the first time in my 27 years of life that I feel someone finally understands what my experience has been and has articulated everything I've felt. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

I am 46 years old and I still deal with my controlling mother. I have tried and tried all my life. She doesn't even realize how much she has affected me to this day.

as a kid i really thought to myself that it would get better when i’m older, but i’m 20 now and it only gets worse

I literally don’t know how much longer I can deal with my mom. She doesn’t realize that mentally she’s destroying me. She won’t break me I won’t give up. It’s just really freaking hard to push through right now.

wow. my life was just put on blast.

I feel sick and depressed because of my mother

“A controlling parent is a toxic parent because they do not honor our basic desire for freedom. That’s a base desire and you are a sovereign soul with your own identity and your own skills. Because the controlling parent does not honor you as a sovereign free individual, it can be very depleting, develop low self identity, and indeed depression can follow.” Every one of us needs to jot her final quote into our journals to remind ourselves of this. It’s our basic human right to not be micro-controlled to the detriment of our self development and autonomy.