The Quiet Cruelty Of A Passive Aggressive Narcissist
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Published 2022-05-19
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All Comments (21)
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Withholds affection, ignores you, doesn't keep his word, keeps you waiting, won't look at you, doesn't return calls or emails, tries to make you feel small, stirs the pot then acts innocent when you get angry.
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Manipulation is when they blame you for your reaction to their disrespect
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They are deep down evil. But afraid to show it outright. They bait you in many different ways. Then when you go off...they are smug and can say "See everyone she's crazy. I told you."
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Remember folks, passive aggressive is still aggressive. They're still setting out to intentionally hurting you. It's an attack, every bit as much as someone swinging a crowbar at you is.
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They will literally try to make you feel bad for realizing the truth & calling them out on it!
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I came across the following quote that I had saved a while ago… it still resonates with me!!! “If someone gets angry with you for setting a boundary, consider that as a good sign that the boundary was necessary.” ~ Jenna Korf ~ (Relationship Coach)
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Under-the-radar aggression until one reacts, then the “Woe is me” melodrama immediately premiers on the world stage. Manipulators
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Never call them on their behavior! That's just plain stupid! Walk away while living your best life as it is the best revenge!
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These are the most harmful and dangerous narcissists. This describes perfectly 20 years with my ex husband. If you're normal you can't imagine people can be this cruel so you think it's you.
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There’s always plausible deniability with them- it’s your appraisal of the situation vs theirs, and they have unlimited excuses and lies. They know they’ve done something to hurt you but they will give you 50 explanations as to why you are wrong about them. I always remember- once is an accident, twice is a pattern…and they will never be accountable. They want you to break down…
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I have characteristics of a narcissist and a passive aggressive person, I am trying to fight against it and become a positive force in the life of people around me.
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For 32 years I did not know I was dealing with a narcissist. The divorce is one month away. Thank you for revealing that I am not crazy.
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They are cruel and there never is a resolution.
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With these people all you can say is, "Whatever you win for winning this argument, congratulations. I'm not playing"
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This was my mother to a tee. Over 50 years of cruelty from her before I learned who/what she was and cut her off. She went absolutely nuts and mobilized her legion of flying monkeys against me, many of whom still malign me after her death. It matters not. I cut them all out of my life too and moved 1000 miles away. The peace is indescribable. Today, I cut off anybody who shows any narcissistic traits. I'm not living what remains of my life with any of those people in it.
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Passive aggressive narcissists enjoy the misery that they inflict. My ex had a malicious grin on his face during his times of cruelty. A grin!! These PA people do want you to hurt.
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Dr.Carter you hit the narcissistic nail on the head, your title is spot on "quiet cruelty".
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It's so hard to get anyone to believe you or listen to you when the narcissist is good at public-face while gossiping about you. I recently heard that love is wanting the other to be happy and wanting them to feel safe. These are not things that a narcissist wants for us.
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My God - my entire family is even sicker than I thought possible
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Messing with or mocking/joking to make a person feel small. This was huge in my life.
