How to stop arguing with your partner--in just minutes | Roderick Jeter | TEDxSanDiego

I have learned that for me, at least, ego and pride gets on the way of most arguments. Once I understood that and kept my ego/pride out of it, I can pretty much resolve any issue with a clearer mind and greater openness. Life is so short.

💯 focus on a single issue of disagreement. reduce that issue into a simple yes or no question both write down reasons to support yes or no answer 1 person reads the most important detail that they have written down. Without debating person 2 repeats back in their own words what they believe person 1 means. ("what you're saying is, you would like...") Person 2 will then ask is that right. Person 1 says yes or no. Person 2 responds to what person 1 MEANS. (Not what person 2 thinks person 1 means) They continue focussing on this detail and the remaining details, 1 detail at a time, until the issue is resolved processing the detailing writing slows communication giving them both time to think and respond thoughtfully (much more effective than the quick emotional response that often happens in disagreements)

Anger is a Sign of Pain or Fear Of It. *Much Compassion & Respect

I’ve known Roderick for many years. He was always the calmest guy in any situation. I am glad to see, him succeeding in developing this conflict resolution tool for the world. Good job my friend, sharing your compassion with the world.

This was the most impressive video that I have watched in a long time. This stuck with me like glue” The relationship must win or you both lose. That was a eye grabber that will gain the attention of many. Rod you are making a difference in the lives of many individuals keep up the great work I'm proud of you

We often hear but don’t listen. We sometimes listen but don’t understand. Rod Jeter’s YB Angry techniques helps couples remove barriers to meaningful communication. If there is even a smidge of care, compassion and commitment in the relationship, I believe these techniques are fail proof. The RELATIONSHIP wins! Well done!

Awesome. This is exactly what my marriage is in need of. Ways to be able to communicate to resolve issues without elevated attitudes.

A good sense of humor can disarm any conflict. Laughing together is fun and helps people relax, so the issue dissolves. I like what you said: "the relationship has to win or you both lose". Thank you so much for the giggles!

Excellent tool to learn how to communicate with your partner. People must want to fix their marriage and the issues in order for it to work. It’s a start to something that could beautiful when a marriage/relationship is worth working for. Both parties have to be willing to explore this. Great tool! I’ve played the game and have referred to others. It’s definitely a game changer.

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Such a powerful way to present a simple idea that can save America. Thank you.

Great talk! This technique teaches active listening which is the key to maintaining a good relationship.

It's an easy solution. The main issue is how to make it happen. How to convince the other half to talk and not to argue and how to stay patient and strong when not everything goes as planned.

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I tried this with my narcissistic ex during our relationship and it didn't work. This technique works assuming the relationship itself is healthy sadly

Wow! So happy I found this video. I pray this works. We love one another so much but the arguing is destroying us 😥

This is called active listening, and it is integral in communication. I learned this when studying neuro-linguistic programming and cognitive behavioral therapy.

We stopped fighting after listening to this, didn’t write a single thing down

I love this man's message and how he delivers it. I will be sharing this a plenty

I still have to watch this from time to time. It was a wonderful experience, and it's all so true. Why Be Angry?