Crying is Extremely Weird

If you’re upset, crying/being sad is a better response than getting mad. Unfortunately, I learned very young that getting angry was less embarrassing because crying was seen as not “manly.” I hope younger generations learn better, because sadness evokes empathy from people, whereas getting angry pushes people away.

When I saw the title for this video, I initially thought it was going to be about how crying tears the way we do isn’t a trait we see in any other animals. This video was very interesting, and I’d love to see more discussion about how and why humans cry with tears, while other animals just have vocal cries.

I'm not sure I entirely believe these studies' results, since I know for a fact that crying can make bullies and domestic abusers more aggressive.

What’s really wild, is if you’ve ever breastfed, the mere sound of a baby crying can give you the sensation of let-down, where your mammary glands release milk in preparation for nursing. Even years after your kids have grown, and your tatas are dry as a bone, you can still get that feeling. It’s weird af.

Crying leads to trusting (in the farmer game) because we hide tears from those we don't know well, but are more open with people we feel safe around. And their crying in front of us is a vulnerability that leads to our connection to them.

Childless woman here. Baby cries irritate me but crying adults make me want to help.

It doesn't surprise me at all that crying was also linked to more trust worthy perceptions. Various other studies show that blushing (faces turning red) are overall linked to more empathy and trust. That it seems to be a way to portray "I am feeling this emotion for real. I am being honest right now." And especially in serious situations where honesty could be very serious, like shame, humiliation, being caught doing something wrong, in a fight, any of these things that might have been potentially a life or death conflict for our ancient ancestors. What else makes your face, and eyes, turn red? Crying

I think the urge to feel compassion for a crying baby is sympathy knowing they are helpless. I remember one of my nieces having bad hiccups when she was a year old. If they didn't go away soon and we couldn't help her, she started crying and hiccuping simultaneously and it hurt me inside knowing she's probably worrying, "What is going on, and why won't it stop?"

So what about people who cry when they're angry? That's about half of my family members. We certainly can't control it and sadly it attracts people who "just want to help" in situations where it's better to leave us the heck alone. On a positive note it lets the anger kinda "flow" away like a release valve is opened.

When I worked in Market research during allergy season my eyes would tear up and I would get more respondents for surveys than during the rest of the year.

One of my earliest memories is in elementary school when a kid and I got into a fight. I joked that he was evil and I was the real hero. He then punched me, kicked me, and then cried. When it got to the teacher, she gave me a harsher punishment than him only because he was crying and I wasn't. Thankfully she no longer works at the school.

7:04 Showing someone your vulnerability will convey trust. I don't think that's odd at all.

I remember crying in front of one guy. He switched to a channel on tv that had someone crying and then told me to look at how ugly people are when they cry. Further evidence that he wasn't a very nice guy and probably had his brain wired all wrong.

I am such an empathetic-cryer…I don’t particularly consider myself to be an “empath”, but I just automatically start tearing up when I see or hear someone else cry. Especially if I know or care about the person, which I guess makes sense

Demons and monsters crying: This has been an artistic obsession of mine for the past couple of months. The disparity in the brain of looking at something that should make you apprehensive and feeling compassion for it is SO peculiar.

I feel myself raging. My mother used tears to control me throughout my childhood. I have to remind myself that not everyone does this and not to snarl at people.

I've never had a single partner that didn't get mad at me and accuse me of faking when crying. I'd like to know where to find these "turned less aggressive" guys

When kids start cry it makes me feel greatful to not have kids. I don't know what your talking about.

i want to know the science behind angry crying (and how to stop doing it because it’s embarrassing)

0:00 - A tip; don't go into "problem solving mode". Go into validation and letting them comfortably express their emotions, mode. The goal shouldn't be to try and stop them from crying via whatever means possible. Rarely are people interested in your problem solving contributions when they are crying or expressing anger, etc. It's just annoying. I had to learn this at one stage lol. Validation here also doesn't mean "you are correct in every way imaginable". It's just acknowledging what they're feeling and expressing that it's okay to be feeling emotions (don't be patronising), even if it's potentially not particularly warranted for the situation (which would be a larger secondary topic for later, because right now they are feeling what they are feeling regardless).