The full story of my divorce

It's been a year since this video was uploaded. I just watched it. In case you haven't realized yet let me say that: When he didn't care for you while you were sick, he made the call. When he wasn't with you when you got COVID, he made the call When he chose his friends and going out with that girl, he made the call When he engaged more with another girl than his wife, he made the call When he threw that hammer at you, he made the call When he said "I don't see the point" during therapy, he made the call. You have nothing to feel shame for. You stood up for yourself and that's the bravest thing you could have done, especially at your age, and especially when being religious and believing in marriage.

I’m so impressed that you took the first sign of violence so seriously. That is especially difficult for women raised in faith beliefs. There’s nothing in single life as lonely as a bad marriage. You’ll have a wonderful future.

As a married man, I have to say, you absolutely did the right thing. People nowadays all too often throw away their marriage for frivolous and selfish reasons, however this is not one of them. Nobody deserves to be emotionally alienated, used, lied to, cheated on and physically intimidated. You seem like a genuinely nice lady and I wish you the best.

Him getting a hotel while you had Covid isn't okay. Him leaving you afterwards isn't okay. I know this was a year ago, but you deserved so much more! Wanting care and nurturing and RESPECT is not asking too much.

Infidelity and feeling physically unsafe in any situation is no excuse. The truth of the matter is that you are a kind human being who deserves the world and someone who treats you like it.

I can tell you from experience, it is so wonderful to be free from a bad marriage. I was verbally and emotionally abused for 26 years. Here I am 7 years later and 6 years into a relationship with a wonderful, caring and loving man. Enjoy your freedom and then someone will come along who is going to treat you right.

This was me/exes in every relationship until I met my fiancé. Long term serious relationships with men who refuse to discuss thier feelings, refuse to work on themselves, emotionally or physically abusive, and infidelity. Breaking that cycle is huge. I'm glad you left. Happy to see you are engaged and happier now.

Michel- it’s not your fault. Please stop blaming yourself. There’s no excuse for cheating on your marriage or showing violence. He should have ended the relationship properly before moving on. Your marriage was over as soon as he cheated on you and did not even have the consideration to come clean and tell you to your face. You deserve all the love and respect. I’m glad you are learning to vocalize what you want. Love yourself first and the rest will follow. ❤️

He took the cowardly route. He strung you along until he made you miserable enough to to leave. No one deserves that. Hope you’re doing okay <3

Him even just throwing the hammer in your direction is abuse. Good for you for getting out! ❤

As someone who has survived a narcissistically abusive relationship, I am so, so proud of you. Well done, well done, well done girl - for sharing your story, for finding the words, for learning the vocab, for giving yourself grace and compassion and soft love, for walking away, for holding compassion for his trauma, for still holding him accountable for his behaviour (that doesn't nullify your compassion), for being brave, for choosing you, for prioritising your wellness, for staying strong, for letting the tears flow, for being authentic, for choosing to trust. I am so proud of you. May you always find the new-found words to express your needs and boundaries and advocate for yourself going forward. Sending the biggest, warmest, hug from the UK. There is no shame in your story, there is no fear in love. God bless you. You go girl. God's got him, and God's got you.

If he cheated on you with her. He will eventually cheat on her with someone else.. it is a cycle .. You are stronger than you were over a year ago.. you have so much to look forward to . Thanks for sharing your story

You are not at fault for: - Choosing a partner who threatened your physical safety. - "Allowing" his infidelity. - Avoiding discussing his abuse (because infidelity and threatening your physical safety is abuse 100%). None of these are your fault. I know you're trying so hard to be fair and accept your own part, but you don't have to accept fault for his parts.

I'm going through a divorce and find it healing and comforting to hear others stories. I'm so sorry about what you went through. I'm glad you got out and can heal.

He took advantage of your sweet and kind nature. Keep being you because you’re just amazing ❤️❤️

Please do not blame yourself for someone else’s actions . Just because u didn’t confront the situation doesn’t mean you are responsible for someone else’s actions ❤️

The fact that you continued to check ON HIM and make sure he was doing ok?! He didn’t deserve you. Someone is going to thank god to have a person like you come in their lives one day, you’re an innately good person. Can’t wait to see what’s in store for you!

As a previous divorcee myself, once a partner has decided to be out of the relationship, it is almost impossible to salvage the relationship. His changing opinions are possibly excuses for the demise of your marriage, but maybe he was also hoping for you to end things after failed attempts at couples therapy. In any case, I am happy for you to be in the place you are now. Hopefully, you are on the road to healing and a brighter future either alone or sharing it with another who truly loves you.

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This man lost an incredible woman. You are strong, compassionate, and loyal. Until the very end you gave all you could. As hard as it was, I know it was a major blessing that you got out when you did. You have your whole life ahead of you still. A life a safety and security that he would have never provided. You should be proud of yourself!