Celeste Headlee: 10 ways to have a better conversation | TED
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Published 2016-03-08
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All Comments (21)
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"Number five: If you don't know, say that you don't know." Yea i tried this one, my teacher didn't really like it.
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"Most people don't really listen, they're just waiting for their turn to speak" Marla Singer, Fight Club
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I was never taught any of this from a young age so now I must teach myself to change my incompetent communication habits.
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Celeste Headlee: 10 ways to have a better conversation:- 1. Don't multitask- Be in present with mind 2. Don't pontificate- Enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn. Don't just try to get your point across. Everybody is an expert in something. 3. Use open ended questions- Who, what, when, where, why and how. 4. Go with the flow- Thoughts will come into your mind and go out of your mind. Let them go. Don't think for two minutes about a clever question to ask. 5. If you don't know say that you don't know. 6. Don't equate your experience with theirs- It is never the same. It's not about you. Don't take that moment. Conversations are not a promotional opportunity. 7. Try not to repeat yourself. 8. Stay out of the weeds- People don't care about the years, the names, the dates all those details that you are struggling to come up with in your mind. They care about you. 9. Listen- Buddha said: If your mouth is open you're not learning. And Calvin Coolidge said: No man ever listened his way out of a job. We don't listen with the intent to understand, we listen with the intent to reply. 10. Be brief- A good conversation is like a miniskirt, short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject. THANKS ME LATER ❤️
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"10 ways to have a better conversation" Introverts have entered the chat
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You'd be surprised how much a person will reveal if you just listen. In a world where everyone is talking, people truly want to be heard.
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who would have thought - in 2021, we are even more divided on those same topics Celeste speaks about back in 2016!
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"If your mouth is open, youre not learning." Shows how very important is listening.
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This woman is an amazing presenter, and her points all stick. You can tell she's the person to ask about how to have a better conversation.
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Was expecting the worst on this one. Turned out the title was literal and honest. I have seen so many similar titles that misuse words like "Conversation" that I have grown a tad jaded. That was actual good advice and well presented.
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I've frequently re-watched this video dozens of times over the last 4-5 years and it's actually changed my social life completely. I used to struggle to be able to hold a conversation with anyone, now after practicing and utilizing these skills i'm literally able to have a fun conversation with anyone while smiling and laughing.
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"There is no reason to learn that you are paying attention if in fact, you are actually paying attention." Probably the absolute, #1 best thing I have heard in a long time. Like a reeaalllyyy long time.
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I am still waiting when will Ted is gonna talk
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2016: "at this moment we are more polarized, more divided than at any point in history" 2020: Hold my beer...
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Any introverts here?
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"A good conversation is like a miniskirt;short enough to retain interest,but long enough to cover the subject" Damn
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There was this quote i once read on internet that said, "Don't be Interesting. Be Interested." and I think this is one of the best RULES to have a Better Conversation.
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Love how brief this was yet still VERY much intellectual, following your own advice is the first sign of a great teacher! 🏛️
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This was the best “Ted’s Talks” I have ever heard - wonderful job! I’m going to have my husband AND kids listen to it as they almost always have technology in their hands…and in mine! I’ve worked with my kids on having a conversation but not in a very long time. This was just great - especially at this time.
