Emotional Intelligence is a Superpower - Dr. Daniel Goleman || Finding Mastery

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“IQ, cognitive abilities are basically hardwired. They don’t really change that much through life… On the other hand, emotional intelligence is learned and learnable, and you can upgrade it at any point in life.” - Dr. Daniel Goleman

This week’s conversation is with trailblazing psychologist and author of the New York Times bestseller Emotional Intelligence, Dr. Daniel Goleman.

Daniel has transformed the way the world educates children, relates to family and friends, and conducts business. Well-known for his work in leadership and education, Daniel is also a distinguished voice in the field of meditation. A meditator since his college days, Daniel spent two years in South Asia, first as a Harvard Predoctoral Traveling Fellow and then again on a Post-Doctoral Fellowship.

His first book, The Meditative Mind: The Varieties of Meditative Experience, was written on the basis of that research, offering an overview of various meditation paths. Daniel’s other books include: A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama’s Vision for Our World and Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain and Body. In this conversation, we discuss his key findings, frameworks, and insights around why emotional intelligence is foundational – and how you can develop it.

Chapters:
0:00 — Intro
3:30 — The Launch of Emotional Intelligence
6:40 - The 3 Parts of Emotional Intelligence
7:40 — The Dark Triad
9:30 — Caring and Compassion
11:00 — Great Coaches
12:20 — Coaching with Compassion
14:10 — Coaching with Direct Reports
15:00 — Sponsor Seed
18:20 — The Sport Frame
22:20 — Trainable
27:10 — General Learning Model
32:55 — How Do You Care
34:31 — Parental Care
35:26 — Making a Difference
37:03 — Aura Ring
38:36 — Magnesium Breakthrough
40:06 — Mental Judo
43:25 — The Critic
45:29 — The Data
46:50 — Mindfulness
48:28 — Being a loser
50:22 — Favorite Song Lyrics
51:48 — Bus Drive Story
53:43 — Philosophy
56:13 — Good Work
57:29 - What Do You Love

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All Comments (21)
  • @alexg8460
    So a Lady today as I’m backing up into a parking space quickly accelerated and drive in it inches from my bumper . The place was packed I was upset got out of the car told her I’m trying to park. She said pretty much too bad it was 2 older ladies and at that point I understood why people go on a rampage and just loose their minds and do something that’s not worth it. Not because of a parking space but because of so much stress in their life and problems all at the same time and when you finally drive in somewhere and catch a break finding a quick spot and some one swoops in steals it , that right their is when people loose it I think. I managed to keep cool and didn’t escalate it because I’m very calm person but anyone else would have been on the news that night. Either way it wasn’t worth the fight , sometimes in these situations the best thing to do is be the bigger person and let it go 🙏.
  • @smmlf676
    40:05 thank you for being so transparent! I found, the biblical practice of forgiveness is similar. To "master" forgiveness, one is required to go back to what Dr. Coleman spoke about, as self awareness. Without writing out a bible study guideline, the bible teaches a prayer that has a line that goes, "forgive us as we forgive those who wronged us...." the idea is, in order to forgive others, we first must be aware of our own character defects and frailty, and only when we're honest about ourselves, we can humbly give grace towards those who wronged us. I believe it is a rewarding practice over time-- for all parties involved. This is such an empowering and enlightening conversation. Thank you. I love the brain science behind loving kindness and human behavior. I'm definitely going to get the books that were mentioned.
  • @mwise7960
    This was quite insightful. Dr Goleman is so warm! Well done, Mike!
  • @nn6179
    Such a great human being
  • @lanajthomasm.s.healthpsych7814
    My conscience and caring circuitry will always remind me. "It Is not about you, it never was. It is about the whole." It is a most important concept about my purposefulness here which is to serve others. Thank you, gentlemen.
  • @AnnaMeleiyaMbiseTanzanian
    What great speakers! I loved the way two of them are so skilled and calm in taking us through EI matters
  • @designerssalonspa1163
    Omg I love this author. How good the world would be if there were more men like him🥰
  • @FindingMastery
    Hope you enjoy this incredible discussion with Dr. Daniel Goleman! If you haven't yet, please make sure to subscribe to our channel and hit the notification bell beneath the video so you can get our next episodes and clips right away! Timestamps for episode: 0:00 — Intro 3:30 — The Launch of Emotional Intelligence 6:40 - The 3 Parts of Emotional Intelligence 7:40 — The Dark Triad 9:30 — Caring and Compassion 11:00 — Great Coaches 12:20 — Coaching with Compassion 14:10 — Coaching with Direct Reports 15:00 — Sponsor Seed 18:20 — The Sport Frame 22:20 — Trainable 27:10 — General Learning Model 32:55 — How Do You Care 34:31 — Parental Care 35:26 — Making a Difference 37:03 — Aura Ring 38:36 — Magnesium Breakthrough 40:06 — Mental Judo 43:25 — The Critic 45:29 — The Data 46:50 — Mindfulness 48:28 — Being a loser 50:22 — Favorite Song Lyrics 51:48 — Bus Drive Story 53:43 — Philosophy 56:13 — Good Work 57:29 - What Do You Love
  • @khanhhoa8655
    Mình thích cuộc nói chuyện này nên nghe đi nghe lại 2 lần rồi. Hơn cả nội dung chính của cuộc hội thoại về Emotional intelligence là chính sự thông minh về cảm xúc của Dan được thể hiện một cách rất rõ ràng nhưng lại không hề phô chút nào. Mình thật ngưỡng mộ Dan, cách mà Dan tập trung vào lắng nghe những ggì Mike nói và đối thoại lại, rất tự nhiên mà đầy sự thông thái. Bên cạnh đó, Mike cũng khá tuyệt ở cách anh ấy rất chú trọng đến sự chính xác trong cách chọn từ ngữ để biểu đạt cảm xúc hay suy nghĩ của bản thân. Thể hiện đúng 1 người hiểu bản thân mình. Nhưng so với Dan thì Mike vẫn chưa đạt đến trình độ lắng nghe tốt như vậy, có thể là do quá tập trung vào bản thân mình, being mindful quá chăng?.