The Preamble: Instantly Impress Someone You Like

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Published 2019-12-16
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It’s frustratingly common to get completely tongue tied when we’re in front of people we’d like to impress. Which is doubly unfortunate because it’s often those situations that could lead to us landing a great new job, connecting with a mentor, or even dating someone we’re smitten with.

That’s why in this video I want to cover how you can avoid that awkward trap and impress the people you admire by standing out in a positive way. To do that, we’ll be referencing someone who has done it many times: Sean Evans of Hot Ones.


⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 

1:38 - #1: Ask questions beyond the obvious ones.
3:09 - #2: Use the question preamble.
4:48 - #3: Steer conversation towards things that elicit emotion.
7:40 - #4: Tease playfully / have fun.
9:18 - #5: Comfortably express disagreement.

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All Comments (21)
  • @bradenboyko
    At a Job interview: Me: so how are your 3 kids doing? Is your daughter still on the volleyball team?
  • @HvyMetal4Ever
    "see them as a human" Indeed I got to meet one of my musical heroes some years ago. It was backstage at a show, and everyone was losing their minds, asking for autographs and pictures. He wasn't in a great space at the time. His band-mate and dear friend passed away just 6 months prior. I approached him, and said "I'm so sorry for your loss" He was caught off guard. I think it was that human moment that so many skipped past all night. I saw him again a few months later at another show backstage. I made a comment, and I think it clicked who I was. It's like he was genuinely happy to see me. Such a great experience
  • @ragtop63
    Sean is definitely a unique host. Make no mistake, there is a team of people, including the creator of Hot Ones, Chris Schonberger, doing the research and digging up the topics Sean presents during his shows. His delivery is definitely his own but all credit must be given where due.
  • @nak3dxsnake
    Damn Sean Evans can even tease and joke with people who aren't funny and still relate to them. Thats always been next to impossible for me.
  • @SyrillSilly
    I am not sure if anyone has noticed how GREAT these videos are for people who struggle with pragmatics. I am an intervention specialist who has to help students on the spectrum learn how to interact with and/or read people in social situations. These videos are gold and an unexpected gift that emerged from the virtual void 🤩
  • @ZacharyLaid
    Treat the person you admire as if they are just a normal friend.
  • @adels.185
    Boss: Do you have any questions? Me: So do you have any weird fantasies?
  • @rapzad3623
    The problem with doing this, at least with “peers” (like someone you want to date) is if you “do research” and start asking in-depth questions about things you wouldn’t know about without that research you’re probably going to creep them out
  • @karabelles5142
    I love that we are now analyzing Sean’s interview and research skills. That’s how good he is. Thanks for this. Super helpful.
  • @saralind2032
    "look at us. Hey. Look at us. Who would've though? Not me."
  • @thescoobymike
    "This is such a good interview, good research" Sean: so are you!
  • Back when I used to be a treinee at a gym, there was a girl that I became friends with and I noticed she even used to became blushed and nervous when I talked to her, as if she was interested, and then when we followed each other on Instagram I discovered that she was a singer from a considerably popular local band that I had never happen to know because I'm not a big fan of that specific music style. But it was interesting to see how I behaved naturaly just because I didn't knew who she was. I didn't ask her out btw, I was not single at the time lol
  • @pastrana21
    never get tired of how often sean impresses guests with his questions. though at the same time sean has said that he does a massive amount of research prior to any interview/guest
  • @lokidecat
    Sean is the best interviewer hands down. He's respectful, funny, well-read, and has great banter. So great to watch a master at work.
  • Sean Evans deserves everything he's made of himself. Him and his superb team host one of the best talk shows in history.
  • @1989red13bfc
    Sean is a gem. That’s why his show has done soo well.
  • @e.l.2734
    The way you put together those scenes really makes Sean's genius show.