Smear Campaign: Turn Narcissist's Flying Monkeys Against Him/Her

One thing to add: narcissists don't seem to think too far ahead. They have no long game, use that to your advantage.

People will kick you when you are down. They think you are a loser but they , in reality, are the real losers.

EXACTLY! 👏👏👏👏👏👏 After a smear campaign, I know very well who are my true friends! 💯 Good for me! I am not naive anymore.

How sad to have people in our lives we have to play games with to stay safe from. Good to have a plan but so sad. Thank you professor Vaknin

I just reported the narc to the Board of Professional Regulation. He lost his license to practice.

It's probably good advice, but I just can't get into playing games with anybody.

This won't work for me, as I despise liars, and won't sink to their level.

Yout advice can save lives!!! So many ppl have committed suicide bc of narcissists amd especially if they wage a viscious smear campaign on top of the abuse they inflict in person. Look at rhe highly publicized case of Mica Miller. Its good that ppl are finally understanding the seriousness of what they do amd it almost always includes them breaking the law. They hv no regard for their victims amd no regard for the law

I'm going through a6yr attack at work.I have a dangerous fan. The police, lawyers are now involved. Her threats have changed now to a palpable fear. They lie. They forget the past. They are impulsive. They are at the end of the day dangerous to themselves. I went and is going through an extremely stressful life event. But thanks to Dr. Vaknin, my psychologist,lawyer and so on, I'm learning to turn my fear into power. Good luck everyone. Stay strong.

Thank you for explaining. My Previous Work Place was hell on Earth. Boss is an overt and his prime flying monkey an covert narc employed in HR. Never expierenced a more evil duo: Mobbing, Bullying, Lying, Micro Management, gossiping, Distrust. As soon as they come to the conclusion that the employee wont fit In, they instantly will lay the person off.

I have been doing this. Acting grateful and providing the flying monkey fake information, she now sends me their chat history and tells him about the information I provide her.

I didn't know anything about narcissists but I instinctly knew he was trying to get me back. I gave him no response, no closure, and no satisfaction. Worked like a charm.

You’re right, Sam! Nonetheless, many victims of narcissistic abuse don’t want anything to do with fake. To survive we have to relearn a lot of things.

I like the part about true friends not believing what the narcs say about the person they recently discarded. My mom just discarded my sister and I don’t believe anything she says about her.

Useful advice that makes life easier is a gift. Thank you Sam.

Narcissists could also operate as a collective/group with the connections to institutions of power. One of the most dangerous forms with an intricate network of flying monkeys.

Bravo! Finally a practical guide on countering smear campaigns. Dr. Vaknin, please consider further expanding on this topic. 🙏

Congratulations on being the one to coin the term, Flying Monkeys. It sure applies well.

How can we recover when the smear campaign continues and by your family. In some countries, it's a nightmare to have your parent against you. I don't respond but I cannot get rid of the sadness. What have I done to deserve all these lies, insults, violence, the humiliations. They took away everything I owned and I bounced back and they're still trying to hurt me. I was stupid because I believed my parent would be more kind with age hahaha what was wrong with me? I only gave another chance to someone who didn't deserve it and who broke me.

I'm only 6 minutes in and already see the extreme value in this video. Thank you, Professor!!!