Chosen Ones Frequently Become Family Scapegoats. Why?

And don’t forget when you are raised in a family of narcissists that’s your norm so you select people like them as friends and partners and you are tortured all over again. You have to recognize your role as a codependent in all relationships and let the cycle end with you by NOT selecting people like that and treating yourself with respect and kindness. The other issue is you have children and they continue the cycle by treating their own parent as the family scapegoat because as the scapegoat in your family of origin you survived by being a yes man that silenced your own needs and you tend to continue the pattern into adulthood. Then you also have to remember to be strong and break the cycle with your kids without becoming a narcissist yourself!

My whole family are criminals,junkies,thieves,liars. I suffered my whole life. When I got older and didn't want to live with it anymore, I had to physically defend myself to make them leave me alone. I don't speak to anyone anymore. Most of them have died, the rest I don't speak to. I'm alone and I'm fine with that. It's better than being in constant CHAOS.

Because we were born with a light. Because we thought and wanted to think people have loving and giving hearts like we do. We kept holding out just like God did with Sodom and Gomorrah. Because we are not filled with envy and hate and could never imagine hurting others …..Because we just can’t imagine that. We were turned into to people pleasers to fight against the false accusations….. and all it did was make us appear weak and set us up for more abuse and be the scapegoat. But we learned the hard way didn’t we? And it took A LOT of abuse and betrayal before we learned to trust only in God. Our good and kind and innocent hearts….. our great empathy was taken for granted. It was not our weakness …… but our strength!! They saw what we had and were envious so sought out to destroy us. Guard your hearts fellow scapegoats ….. know your worth and that God will never leave you❤

Because narcissists are addicted to attention. And the empath enables them.

This video was perfectly timed in my case! The part where you mentioned how mornings are the most difficult time for family narc's really struck a cord w/me. I've always wondered why a specific family member of mine has behaved so awfully, so consistently in the morning time- ALWAYS in the morning... Now it makes sense- getting their "masks" on and in order and aligning their persona based on the illusions they've manufactured through their behavior and treatment of others. Gives a whole new meaning to " not being a morning person"! Lol. I can laugh bc I can sympathize w/ her while simultaneously remaining grateful for the bits of wisdom I've gained along the way. And knowing the reasons of motivation for their misery is, well it's actually very sad, despite how hurt, isolated and angry I may feel at times. Thank you for the video- very helpful.

What a refreshing new way to look at this old program. At 70 with the help of a Good therapist I am just now learning how to silence those old voices. Thank You, your channel is kind, gentle, and informative ❤

I always felt like the lightning rod, the black box of the family. A disturbing, unwanted awareness.

Thank you..healing from the narc family..47yrs of abuse..seizures from the damage done..I needed this❤

I really needed this. I like the way you presented. The words were just right for me. It feels as if God directed me to watch your talk. I am very thankful to you. Be protected and loved.

Nothing but TRUTH!! You have a new sub sir!! ❤🙏🏼

true story! thank you..you absolutely are preaching to my choir!

Choosen ones are best to move away far

I've hoed a few rows, but never heard 'hard row to hoe', I like that lol 😂 My poor old pawpaw used to tell me, "Make sure you get your education, hard work is for a mule, and even he'll turn his ass to it" 😅 Thanks for the message, recovering 30-year scapegoat here. The craziest thing I've learned just recently is that sometimes living under a narcissistic cloud is actually protecting you as a chosen one from much bigger demons, and all the lesser demons that you do encounter during that cloud of 'protection' are just sent by God or the universe to test you before giving you your greater blessings after giving up your lesser blessings to the narcissist's control.

narcissist & empath. the classic. it's a spiritual type of entanglement with hidden (karmic) causes & pending karmas to be cleared on both sides. narcissist's ego gets triggered by empath's compassion. arrogance meeting humility is painful for both. insensitivity meeting sensitivity will trigger inevitable transformation because opposite frequencies do clash. the thing here is to return to balance for both sides. narcissist needs to open heart chakra (Jupiter - compassion, spirituality), empath needs to activate manipura charka (mars - confidence & self-assertion, materialistic ambition & drive). at times, of course it can get really abusive & negative & traumatising, still i have seen people in my life, get better after such lows & really get positively transformed. some others also get really bad into addictions, repetitive loops without learning the lesson. it is not an easy ride. but not impossible sure. we learn & evolve, let go, move on. like one of my astrologer friends told me, u know the last 5-10 incarnations are the toughest cause you are shown the pending karmas u always postponed & tried to escape, but you'll have to face them sooner or later. Oms

Thank you! Very wise! I was GC, SG, Invisible child, Helper, Caretaker, and I do not know how many other roles, sometimes I was no body!

Thank you brother for your message. Keep bringing the truth.🙏🏽👑

Many times, I feel like the black sheep of the family.

😢😢😢😢 I don't wanna do it anymore! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I TRY to remember to Love the Haters and Pray .... for the Users. Im 5'8" and 94 lbs soakin wet, disabled. They're ..... healthier Employed and CLUELESS TO WHAT We're here ( on earrh for! ) I Soooo run BOLDLY to the throne, and trust, One day SOON ....... We WILL See the Victories! But I have MANY days, I wonder, if I might find more rest in that Whales belly, Than to keep subjecting My frail soul to NINEVEH!

I’ve learnt this lesson, I once told a friend that my sister asked if I was delusional, and then she wasn’t a friend for much longer. It took me months and months to realise I should’ve explained to her that dynamics of my relationship with my sister because likely she was thinking if her sister thinks. she’s delusional then maybe she’s delusional

I had this when I was a kid being blamed for everything from step mother my dad my step dad all the time now I got rid of all of them and it all makes sense what your saying now I’m as confident than ever before and I won’t take any bad stuff from family now and they know it! Thank you for your video ❤️