5 Common Behaviors That Kill Relationships

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Time decides who you meet in life, your heart decides who you want in your life, and your behavior decides who stay in your life.

0:35 angrily reacting to criticism 1:30 disrespecting your partner's privacy 2:24 bringing yourself down 3:00 giving ultimatums 3:50 giving the silent treatment

Most relationships suffer due to unclear communication. In my case, I expected my bf to know everything I wanted, without me sharing it. With time I have learned how to openly communicate. Also, we are now playing couple questions games like “Lovify”. Where we have to guess each other's expectations. Been 3 years into love & we are still trying to understand each other better 💗

Step 1: Get into relationship.

Just this week. I realized I displayed a behavior that I felt my boyfriend was uncomfortable with. He likes to watch this soap opera called The Ranch. He really likes it. I am the type of person to analyze shows, I do it to my own shows and it can bring up some good, deep topics. But I realized that just because I do it, doesn't mean my boyfriend would enjoy talking during the show. He just wants to watch it in peace. I brought this up with him, apologized for my actions, mentioned how I saw I was bothering him, and asked him to please be more open when I do these kinds of behaviors so I can catch it quickly. He expressed that he was annoyed with my backseat commentaries, thanked me for being self and environmentally aware, and said he would work on being more open with me. I made a promise to not make commentaries during his shows. Its a hard habit for me to rain in, sometimes I leave the room when the edge to chat is strong. But I also see how it helps me boyfriend have peace in what he watches. I'm not offended. I'm actually embarrassed I didn't catch it sooner.

To anyone in a relationship Do NOT constantly bring up old relationships constantly. Don’t compare your partner to you ex ever, whether they were a good ex or a bad ex. Either way you’ll make them feel insecure and terrible. Don’t try and make them change some things about themself just because it reminds you of an ex. It’s damaging to the relationship.

I have another one to add: not actively participating in things you share. My bf and I live together and everytime we go grocery shopping I'm always the one left to think of meals and food we can share together, and when I ask him it's always "idk pick whatever you want". It's so frustrating to be left to do everything by myself and have him waiting either for directions or me to just decide

Why am i watching this? I don't even have a girlfriend. 😂

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I totally felt touched by 3rd piece of advice. I've been struggling with my insecurities for YEARS and my boyfriend has always helped me, but a few months ago he told me that he felt overwhelmed by my constantly low self esteem. He said that he was feeling powerless and helpless, and after talking for a while he told me he had realized that the only thing he hates about me is the way I hate myself. That really hit me and I've been trying to improve since then, but I wish someone could have told me that I was not only hurting myself but also him. We're still together and our relationship is healthier now, in case you wanted to know. I just wanted to comment about this because I think the 3rd recommendation is a very important one :)

After hours of searching for relationship advice online, all I saw was “if your partner isn’t good to you, do this” but finally after seeing people who are like me and open with their issues, I can’t express how thankful I am for this video. It brings me to tears. I have severe attachment issues and crazy anxiety. I never realized how controlling I can be and just how hurtful my words can be. I can’t really afford therapy so I hope I can find something else. Thanks for the video ❤

Currently 5 years into a relationship and have suffered, endured, and recovered from every single one of these behaviours/scenarios. They're completely normal and should be taken as problems that need solving rather than something you should avoid just because you don't like it. Communication is key and it doesn't always come out as figurative talk, but it will make your bond with your partner a lot stronger and you'll feel more liberated at the same time.

I've been on the receiving end of the silent treatment several times, and I can attest it is definitely what destroyed the best relationship I've ever had. Ladies and gents, please make the effort to communicate with your partner, even if it's just to say you're not ready to talk and need some time to get your thoughts together. Simply saying you need some time is infinitely better than walking away refusing to talk, listen, or even acknowledge your partner's efforts to solve whatever challenge you're facing.

As someone who delt with a partner with low self-esteem I can assure it's frustrating, it made me feel not enough, like my compliments meant nothing to them, luckily, after some time and some help, it has changed and now they are much more secure about themselves, it really changed our relationship for good.

As someone who has been (and partially still is) depressed. This video is one of the first things that were able to make me cry. I recognize myself in all of these actions, I have done all of these things. Some more than others. This really opened my eyes, and now I know, working on myself is more important than anything. This gave me more emotional maturity and hopefully this will lead to better mental health. Thank you. :')

The "bringing yourself down" one is something I am struggling with a lot. My partner wants me to stop overthinking things and stop calling myself ugly, which is gonna take a long time from my kinda socially alienating mental disorder and my history of depression and anxiety. However, I do find motivation in the way it's addressed in the video. My partner is also stressed as get family is difficult, and she too has this feeling of alienation for her looks.

My partner of 2.5 years recently ended our relationship because she felt suffocated by me. I didn't ever mean to make her feel this way, but I realize that it was insecurity and specifically bringing myself down that made her feel this way. I would get jealous over little things and tried my best not to make it a big deal, but she always took extra care to avoid making me feel that way by limiting herself and what she could do. I would need constant reassurance, and she must have been so drained from those things. It's only now that I'm realizing the lengths she went for me and I feel so, so terrible that I put her through that for so long. She made me so happy and I wish I could've done the same for her. I don't even know where to begin to start improving myself. I've tried reaching out to the friends I've made over the years but it's so hard to pull myself back up again. Thank you for pointing out one of the issues I had. Identifying the issue is always the first step to resolving it.

I would like to add one: ignoring or disrespecting boundaries no matter how big or small they may seem. My ex did this to me a lot and it killed any and all feelings I had for him because it made me realize he didn't respect me and didn't truly care about what upset me or made me very uncomfortable.

Haven’t been in a romantic relationship yet, and watching this video made me realize that I still have a lot to work on myself, so I wouldn’t be a burden to my future partner. Thanks for this! Please keep on making ones like this.