Narcissists and ...

THE NARCISSIST'S PRAYER: That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did... You deserved it!

"They feel entitled to their pleasure no matter whom it harms". So true.

The most honest thing he ever said …. As he was leaving …. Was “ I don’t love you , I’ve never loved you, I don’t even love myself”

I had a healthy sex drive but the narcissist that I was married to would often turn my advances down with many different excuses. Only to later wake up at 1 or 2 in the morning to find him downstairs pleasuring himself to his porn. The feeling of never being good enough still haunts me 20 years later.

I feel safe in the comments with people who feel the same as I do and went through. I wasn’t crazy. I WAS NOT CRAZY. thank you everyone for confirming that for me.

"Too many people in narcissistic relationships stretch their boundaries to an uncomfortable point" So right!

It’s no surprise that women today prefer not to be in relationships.

Even after all this time I am still discovering new things that explain a lot. I have a lump in my throat right now, and I'm holding my tears. You can't even start to imagine how bad it was. How many times i was blamed for his addiction to porn use, and how many times i was put down for not agreeing to do what he saw in theae videos.

After reading these comments, I think it is easier to live alone.

Narcs approach sex like foolish teenagers. It's all about "getting some". They couldn't care less about your feelings or discomfort.

Its so nice to know that I have every right to intimacy. In a sense I feel like I prostituted myself out to the narcissist as a way to get the intimacy I was not getting.

I was married to a extreme covert narcissist for 17 yrs and let’s just say every day I am so thankful for my sanity and never take my peace for granted. In saying this mr ex-husband was excessive in everything and one of these things he indulged in was pornography. This, on top of everything else, impacted our marriage and family deeply. Like everything else about a narcissist, it doesn’t get better, but only worse. Brutality painful and hurtful. Thank you for discussing this subject of pornography as I feel this is a big one for many and sadly it’s extremely damaging on every level.

How did we all get sucked in so far that we dealt with this for so long? Anyone still in this situation, I’m praying for you. Strength to remove yourself is coming.

Don’t expect a healthy, loving, or committed relationship with a porn addict especially if they are also a narcissist.

Thank you so much, Dr.Ramani. I left my husband in 2013 due to his covert/grandiose narcissism, alcoholism and pornography addiction. I had been gaslit and dismissed for 12 years & I blamed myself. "Hold on to your reality" really speaks to me. With full custody of our 3 children, I immersed myself in new & healthy perspectives, and have forged forward. Content like yours is imperative to those that have suffered and are recovering. God bless you. 🕉

Pornography watching is yet another disgusting betrayal on the long list of all kinds of betrayals the narcissist will present you with.

Not only that, it’s a great tool they can use to starve their partner of affection ..

Isn't it so strange how we were all in different narcissistic relationships but we all have this commonality between us? Its wild how people are so different but narcissists can be so similar...

I'm so grateful for you bringing up this topic and thank you for validating so many women's feelings who get shamed for feeling betrayed and ignored on this subject in their relationships. It is so devastating to so many kind women.

It's hard to be with someone who has to work at respecting you when it's second nature for them to hate you.