Dr. K Chats with @ludwig

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Ludwig saying he plays 'electric' (i.e. good) and Dr K. thinking he's talking about a character named 'Electric' is a fascinating misunderstanding to watch never get resolved.

“What is gooning” I shouldn’t have laughed as much as I did. Too funny man

that was my first time watching a stream on this channel, and it was incredible. I feel like this has helped with my own happiness & motivation issues and is pushing me in a healthier direction. Thank you Dr. K and the team behind HealthyGamerGG for this stream and thank you Ludwig for being on here which led me to watch the stream

I love all of the conversations on this channel, but I think this one was super interesting because Ludwig is very good at honing in on exactly what you're talking about. He doesn't want to half-understand your point and move on, he wants to make sure that if there's something in there that sounds weird to him, he's going to get to the bottom of it, and because you guys think differently but are both working to untangle any knots it makes the point both more accessible and more precise, which I think is great. The perfect productive tension between two different approaches to the same goals.

Man, I don't watch Dr. K a lot (maybe two videos a month), but every time he talks it's just extremely healthy dialogue beamed straight into my brain

2:06:33 "It's just day one, two, and three, over and over and over again. And the whole reason that people get burned out is because people live day one, two, and three in a shitty way hoping for day 100 to be better. And then they go back to day one, two, and three, sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice but it's just day one, two, and three over and over and over again." Love this sentiment, it's a message that seems simple but people (including me) forget this cycle

Ludwig is so good at asking questions, it feels like every question he asks can be broken down and explored

As someone with ADHD I have realised that in order to get anything done, I rely on the flow state and the "one pointedness of the mind" as you put it, that comes with it. I used to think of this simply as "I need stress to get anything done" which is of course a very poular thought in the ADHD space. The problem I had which really derailled my life was that I found that the lower limit for "enough stress to do the thing" kept getting higher and the upper limit of "too much stress to do the thing because I'm overwhelmed" began to fall, untill they crossed over, and there was no space in between to function and I couldn't do the simplest tasks without getting really overwhelmed. This then became its own meta-source of anxiety which compounded things because the thought of my work giving me anxiety was itself giving me anxiety. I would love to see a video on this, because although I'm doing better now, I never really dealt with this problem.

Just to clear things up at 46:55: if you are in an emergency in the EU, you call 112 instead of 911!

You should reach out to Gotham Chess! He is working on becoming a GM right now, and a lot of his focus is on the mental aspects. Levy and you would have a great conversation!.

Stream Start, Intro & 988 Sponsorship : 03:33 Conversation w/ Ludwig: 7:34 - Market Basket Discussion: 07:44 - Shame & Learning New Things: 09:26 - Ludwig's Confidence: 14:28 - The "Treadmill" Analogy: 17:14 - Asceticism & Deprivation: 21:20 - Gooning & Edging: 24:27 - Video Games & Immersion (Elden Ring): 26:09 - Getting Lost in Activities (Tokyo Vice, Shogun, Dota 2): 28:26 - Balancing Dota 2 & Writing a Book: 29:18 - Unpublished Book & Dr. K's Writing Process: 35:06 - Success vs. Striving: 36:06 - Should vs. Want & Quitting Video Games: 39:00 - Dr. K's Medical School Experience: 41:56 - 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Sponsorship: 44:34 - European Emergency Numbers: 46:58 - Understanding Flow State: 47:49 - Flow State & Urination: 50:23 - How to Live Life: 57:57 - Running Out of Content & New Experiences: 59:19 - Female Sociopathy & Bullying: 1:06:29 - Clenching Fists & Aggression: 1:13:26 - Dr. K's Responsibility & Tiredness: 1:15:14 - Dr. K's Wants & Desires: 1:19:32 - Healthy Gamer's Purpose & Dr. K's Role: 1:20:31 - Winnie the Pooh & Regret: 1:26:18 - Defining Regret: 1:28:10 - Avoiding Regret & The Precautionary Principle: 1:29:29 - Technical Difficulties (Discord Server Change): 1:30:04 - The Illusion of Control & Accepting Responsibility: 1:32:28 - Dr. K's Attempts to Save People: 1:41:03 - Flow State & Avoiding Responsibility: 1:41:19 - Dr. K's Burnout Point: 1:45:07 - Crafting an Enjoyable Day-to-Day: 1:48:44 - The Midlife Crisis: 1:50:36 - Eric Erickson's Stages of Development: 1:51:45 - Living in the Present Moment: 1:52:32 - The Illusion of External Solutions: 1:54:06 - The Thousand Day Bakery: 1:58:44 - Zen Tradition & The Impermanence of Creation: 1:59:16 - The Joy of Making vs. Having: 2:00:01 - Majora's Mask & Living in 3-Day Cycles: 2:05:59 - Book/Show Recommendations: 2:17:24 - Ludwig's Japan Trip: 2:23:18 - Outro & 988 Outro: 2:24:42

This conversation connected a lot of dots that have been floating around in my head for months now. Questions like how much effort should I be putting into life, what do I do when I can't live up to the standards that I set for myself, what do I do when I feel like I've fucked myself by being lazy in the past. I've been ruminating a lot on the difficulty of life and how that relates to the idea of putting in effort without expectations. I think this conversation covers these ideas from a really intriguing angle. The majoras mask analogy is really powerful to me, it felt like everything was building up so this sentiment could be expressed in that way

Personal notes 1:00:49 - Life should be played in alignment with yourself 2:05:55 - Majora's mask analogy 💜 2:09:06 - Eudaimonia (happiness) involves Self-determination, Self-expression, Importance, Effor

I love every time Dr K has Lud on the stream. Ludwig is such a good listener and truly is willing to listen and learn. I hope that he has him on here again.

The 1st healthy gg video I watched was your first time having Ludwig on. You 2 have a great chemistry in these conversations. Thanks to both of you for what you do!

I'm 27, so around same age as Ludwig. I also worry about stuff like he does. I work as a 3D character animator. I love it so much. I'm also overwhelmed at times by all the different creative projects I want to do, I want to pour my heart into, I like writing and I wanna write stories, I want to make independent productions on my own, blah blah blah. It scares me, this idea, that not all of my ambitions and designs and passion projects and desires will be fulfilled. I don't want to let my ideas down. I don't want to give half of myself. I want to give my entire creative self to this existence, but also I'm just a person and I face burn out and I have to work on non-passion project things to survive and I also enjoy that too. But I do know that I'm a passionate person; I won't let things slip if I really want them to exist for me. Of course in general, I wouldn't like to neglect the things that I want to do. But it's also not up to me to write every detail of my life and have it go justly accordingly to plan. At some level, I have to sacrifice what I want so that what can be can be. A lot of the great things in my life now were completely out of my control and scope before they got here, and so did my desires adjust thereafter. Keep a log of your past goals and plans, and revisit it from time to time to see if it holds true. Even for small personal projects, I end up dropping most of them. I outgrew them!

"there must be a biological mechanism that unlocks the flow state" Dr. K has been reading Dune

I really enjoy the conversations between Lud and Dr. K. The back and forth and just listening to everything really gets me to think. I hope there will be more Ludwig and Dr. K talks because I like the chemistry between you two

I found Doctor K Maybe 2 weeks ago going through a hard time in my relationship, will forever be grateful for the sense of relatability and pure conversations that have been had, that eventually helped me in so many ways and made me more in touch with myself and not afraid to feel.