10 Things Elegant People NEVER Do

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I've had dinner parties ruined by guests who wanted to "help" and ended up taking over my kitchen to prepare their special dish. I don't like people in my kitchen when I'm preparing a meal--talking to me, getting in my way, wanting to "help," telling me how to do things, cleaning up for me, etc. So definitely, no means no.

1. They are never rude or snarky. 2. They never push the plate away from them. 3. If there is a coat room, they don’t bring their coat with them and sit it on their chair. 4. They don’t go to the bathroom before dessert, and they don’t announce it—they just say “Excuse me”. 5. They don’t speak loudly on the phone in public. 6. They don’t stare at people, they glance discreetly. 7. They don’t chew gum in public. 8. For men: Don’t show your sole to the person you’re with when you’re sitting down. 9. Don’t over-explain why you aren’t attending an event. 10. Don’t carry a large handbag when you go out at night.

As a 64 yr old woman who is often cold I think of the years I was cold to look good. Now I don’t care if I’m not elegant. My wrap will remain on the back of my chair so I can put it on if needed. And after 32 years of digestive issues, if I must go to the bathroom mid-meal, so be it. Much better than the alternative. Mostly, though, I feel this list is about respecting others. Always good advice. ❤

So I would like to add something… Many people think it is ok to eliminate your filter because you are a senior citizen. As a 68 year old lady, I would like to implore other elders to always maintain your manners. It is NEVER ok to behave badly. I love your videos Anna! Elegance is about good manners and our society seems to have lost manners. Keep up your wonderful work!

I think talking loudly on the phone in public places is the worst. A quick quiet conversational may be necessary occasionally but there are limits. Love all of these reminders. 💚

I have to say that I love love love that you’re not afraid or too “above” showing your past mistakes and using yourself as an example. It’s so bold, it’s so human and lovely, you should be very proud of yourself because in a world of so many filters and hiding all flaws, you are refreshingly honest and by consequence trustworthy to listen to! I take my hat off 💕

Helping clean up after a meal is EXPECTED and a sign of respect in South Mississippi USA. That’s all I know.

I don’t see anything wrong with draping your coat on the back of your seat. Besides, most establishments don’t have a “cloakroom” for hanging coats! Also, I would not be comfortable hanging my coat with other random people’s coats due to crossover smells & the slim possibility my coat might get taken by someone

After placing an order and before food is served is a very appropriate time to go to the restroom and wash one hands. There is a strong possibility that bread will be served in a common basket, as well as the passing of appetizers, therefore any hands which will come in contact should be cleansed after handling menus which are contaminants.

I appreciate the kitchen tip! I always used to feel guilty for saying "no thank you" to help. My reason was that accepting help was more stressful for me, because I am not comfortable managing or delegating to others. This makes me feel more comfortable about refusing.

Dear Anna, David Beckham, in my humble opinion is not an elegant man. Just because he’s a celebrity doesn’t make him elegant, as most would think. This is where I believe the public has to rethink who they idolize and why. It’s time to step up our own game of celeb and elegance! And that’s where you are helping us. Thanks for your hard work! 🙏❤️

If you need the restroom for whatever reason (ie: wash hands before a meal, clear a runny noise or void your bladder) I think it is perfectly acceptable to do so. As a mother of two adult children (who were very large babies) my bladder doesn’t always cooperate with my plans or wishes, so I always need frequent trips to the nearest restroom and this is not something I can postpone until a more opportune time.

Respecting boundaries in other’s people houses is the most important thing. Guests might not be welcome in the whole house.

I still remember when my dad's friends sent cakes to my baby shower . They wanted to come to the event but men were not allowed there. It felt such a personal and familial gesture. Made it super special.

This is why I love Anna...she's not afraid to be open about her life lessons. This is what makes her authentic.

Btw, talking about cleaning dishes etiquette in host's house. I think the 2nd point is actually depends on the culture and background of the person involved. As people's up bringing from every country is different. Such as me in Indonesia, if you're lets say a younger generation who's visiting your friend's house, people tend to like you more if you're doing their dishes because it symbolize that you're a hardworking and reliable person who eager to help the family even to do the simplest task. So it might be different from every culture. But if the person is born into a wealthy family, fo sho they'll have maids and no need to do such gesture. I think it might apply similar in almost every culture as well.

Point # 2 had me LOL... Our Family would find you incredibly rude if you "didn't" automatically get up and help clean up after dinner, especially when they've just prepared you a meal. That is definitely a culturally diverse topic, I believe.

Dear Anna, please, make more etiquette videos! Looks matter but at the end of the day it’s our manners what people mention and remember the most about us!

I literally watched a man complain today in Neiman Marcus about the ladies at the beauty counter talking loud and being vulgar and it took away from his shopping experience. So I agree there’s a time and a place for everything etiquette is some thing that definitely needs to continuously be stressed. Thank you for this video