Can Catholic Girls Ask Guys Out? | Catholic Girls Making the First Move

My husband and I met on a dating site - he initiated the conversation and we soon realized we had so much in common despite being raised in two different countries that I just had to meet him in person asap! I asked him out to attend mass and dinner with me to which he promptly replied yes! We both knew within weeks that we had both finally found our true love and almost a year from our first date he proposed! We are now happily married and I’m so glad God had placed on my heart to ask him to mass and dinner!! 💕💕

Would have never guessed that Christopher West's wife first asked him out! Never! Had to hear it in the flesh to believe! God is hilarious! You 2 rock!

The man should ask the woman out BUT BUT BUT the girl shouldn't be afraid to start a conversation You're welcome

After being friends with my male friend for 7 years I am contemplating asking him if he is interested in pursuing more than just a friendship. He is always there for me and we have gone out many times but I am the one who usually calls him. He is shy and takes care of his family alot. I may be making a mistake but either way, I will know where I stand.

I want to hear your full love story!!!

I was happy to see how you both approached this topic with a lot of balance and nuance, sharing some wisdom without answering with black-and-whites. The "exaggerated" approach you alluded to is something I've often seen come from surface level interpretations of TOTB, where my Catholic friends gather from some talk that the women simply cannot express any direct interest in a man, which just leads to resentment later because men are unsure of whether or not to ask without offending a woman, the woman feels bad no one asks her, but she's not openly sharing that she is open, and the man is all confused about what is appropriate or inappropriate. :P A vicious cycle, haha. Better for people to communicate well while also acknowledge that there really does seem to be a good "dance" between masculine and feminine complementarity that tends to show up in healthy relationship patterns. Theology of the Body helps guide our thinking, but in real situations we can't expect to have "perfect" answers. Being open to the mystery of relationships also lets us remain open to the mystery of how God works even in the messiness of our relationships

Thank you. 😇🙏

Thank you for sharing your own story! How beautiful :~)

It doesn't matter who asks who out first. Just learn about each other and find someone that brings you some joy and peace. Don't make it hard.

My heart aches 💔 when he said no 💔

Great advice! I love how you do this intellectual dance between masculinity and femininity based on your personal experience and under the light of the theology of the body. Thank you for opening up! I struggle with that, and this episode showed me that, even though God designed masculine and feminine roles in a certain way, there's some flexibility within certain boundaries. That's why prayer is so important to discern those boundaries. That's the key you guys wisely stressed.

Wait wait did he say no to the first invitation? So what happened that in the end you still got together? How did you Wendy react after that 'no'? Would love to hear the rest of the story❤

as a man I don't expect girls to approach me and ask for my number or something, but it would be great if a girl who have interest in me and I don't notice it, to be the first one to make a move. As a man I'll approach the girl I want to know, but sometimes I won't notice a girl who might have an interest in me.

My girlfriend in college asked me out at synagogue. I said the exact same line: "Let me pray on it." That only took me a few seconds though lol.

Always found asking women out frustrating. There's so many pit falls an if you get it wrong it's embarrassing an leads to frustration. It's much more rewarding to go out with the girls who are into you. They are more loyal and make you feel more secure about the relationship. I find it's a much healthier outcome. If your lucky enough to be in that position.

And honestly, I feel like maybe it's a possibility that you Wendy knew in the depths of your heart that God's plan was for Chrisopher and you to be each other's spouse; but just maybe it's possible that your young little self at the time got 'ahead' of God's plan (because we women have our intuitions and not always patience) and in a small sense, grasped for what was going to be made possible from God through the man (Christopher) within a year later. Obviously this is just a thought and may not be the truth. Food for thought!

Interesting that she asked him out first, unfortunately that normally doesn't happen often

You two are cute. 😊

Make no mistake, responding to a simple request for a date with "I need to pray about it" is 100% Grade-A Strange. But apparently it made her want to (gasp!) pursue him even more. A very interesting tactic.

I think it's a worldly construct to say that a man should be the one who asks the woman out. But theres nothing in the bible to back that up. I think if you want anything in life you gotta step up and go for it, whether you be a man or a woman. Society has put women in a passive position so that they sit back and think that the man should come to them.......I know so many women who liked a guy but didnt go for it, instead they sat back and ended up some other dude who, truth be told, they didnt like as much as the first guy. That's having your power taken away and it doesn't have to be that way.