How To Respond To Insults - Q&A Episode #1

Not responding doesn't necessarily imply you agree with them and are insecure, it could be that others words simply no longer bother you and responding is a waste of time and energy. Good video anyway!

What about option 4 which is punching the insulter in the face and letting them know you are not one to be fucked with?

There's a lot of people who laugh off an insult and respond the "confident" way, suggested in this video. And deep down, behind their fake laugh, they are feeling hurt. I think the third method also allows people to insult you and tells them that it's acceptable behavior. I remember when I was young I never knew I was insulting my sister's friends and our cousins because they would laugh it off. Until their moms would call my mom talking about how distressed we made their daughters feel by our jokes. I think it's better to correct the person by letting them know that they made an inappropriate remark and it doesn't and it does not deserve the dignity of a response.

Humor it.. that's it. youre welcome.

When people insult me I don't respond and instead become a godfather planning how to destroy their lives lol 😅😅

I rarely have people insult me. But when I do, I literally laugh and genuine struggle to take it seriously if the insult holds no real weight xD If its constructive criticism, I happily take it and remove any emotion from the equation. It was awesome seeing your perspective. Keep the videos coming, you really got something here.

the thing is about somebody being insulting is they gain power out of the situation. They enjoy pissing you off and get a kick out of it. The video shows one way to take their enjoyment away because you laugh it off. However with some people, such as passive aggressives, this laughing it off is a declaration of war and they will come at you all the more because they'll say you can take it and laugh it off. This is when things get more interesting because you've got deal with not just their rude comments but also the underlying bullying. The best way is to remember that they're doing for kicks so you take the fun or of it by owning the insult (shown in video) and give it back to them. You look like you've put on weight. Yea I have, you inspired me, lol The idea is they stop insulting you when they realise it's being reflected back on themselves.

I'm always insulted because I'm Asian and I can't speak well and in home i cry. so I decided to watch this and it really helped. Thanks man

i have hard time responding to insults as well. Usually when someone insults me i stay quiet and i take it too personally. but next time i'll try this method.

Aren't you just opening the door for someone to be rude on a daily basis.

I am the agree and amplify type of person, but I still feel hurt and replay the situation. Can someone help?

I like it a lot! I really liked it when you said: "The way that you re-act is creating the frame". Such a power thing. Thank you for this video.

disagree and amplify works pretty well too.

i'm the aggresive type. when someone insults they go to the dentist :D

I am a pychologist and i can say that depends of three factors of how you could react: 1) Who is the person who says that. 2)The magnitude of the insult. 3)The context of the situation or your day.

Thank you....I was just being bullied online by some people I thought were my friends... I shut off my computer in sadness and regret..... I got my phone to go on YouTube because that always cheers me up. I saw this video in my recommended and watched it. It helped so much. Thanks you!

This video is a lot of help, but I'm not very good at responding to complements either. they make me feel awkward and I'm never really sure what to say besides thanks.

hater :"You suck!" me ;"Honey, I also swallow"

I'm like the second one. I keep quiet, put it in my head. lol

I once was in a family reunion and a number of my relatives wouldn't stop commenting on how much weight I have put in. Initially I laughed it off, joked about it with them and did not show them that I was offended. They kept coming at me all throughout the day (we arrived in the morning, and was there until around 9 PM, so yeah) repeating the same comments everytime they see me or pass by me. It drained me so much I ended up crying in a room and feeling so depressed. It caused me to not meet anyone of my relatives for more than a year and that's when they realized that they were wrong. The whole incident scarred me until now, traumatized me so much I avoid social gatherings altogether as much as I can. Sometimes there are just some people who wouldn't stop until they see you break, no matter how much you agree or disagree with them.