personal style is the answer to all your fashion problems

When you say that you still buy from fast fashion brands when it’s the only option, what sort of items do you mean? I definitely make exceptions for some things, but I do sometimes wonder if I just haven’t looked hard enough for other options (or if I don’t really need the thing in the first place).

being too poor to engage in trends helps fight consumerism very well /hj

I think outside of literal visual outfit inspiration, what can really help someone trying to find their personal style is thinking about their individual interests. For me, I've been cultivating a personal style since I was a kid just taking the shows, music, art, sports, films I love and letting them inspire me, my wardrobe and personality - which, as you said, is ever changing as we mature and evolve. Understanding that we as human beings are not just a single visual expression that can be summed into an aesthetic but a collection of all the things we love and loathe can really help guide how we present ourselves to the world.

I started wearing my skirt and dresses because I feel so much more confident and pretty and myself, and I noticed 2 things. I felt way more put together and being myself, 2 I got so many compliments on my outfit that it looked good on me, because I wear it with so much confidence and happiness. I did this for a month and I am using this experience with buying more clothes second hand. I definitely know what I like and love now :)

I love that Bella outfit. The casual tank goes so well with the leather green pants for a daytime look. Shoes and bag also match so well. I think that outfit is Bellas personal style. Even if you crop her face out, it's such a good outfit.

I was bullied as a kid and as a teen, and so I grew up wanting to be anyone but me. I was constantly trying to reconstruct myself into a more likeable or marketable character. It came to point where I just didn't know who I was, or what I actually liked. Recently, I started to think about what I found cool as a kid, the things that have never really changed, that I've never really stopped liking or finding cool, that felt like home, that felt right. And I realised that I always had had this idea of a cool "rocker" (as I used to say), a style that mixed different decades of rock n roll style into something more minimalistic and timeless. I had this distinct memory of watching Joan Jett's I Hate Myself For Loving You music video on the family computer, and thinking it was the coolest thing I had ever seen. I also grew up with Bratz, who had their own rendition of rockstar style, and the X-Men movies (I loved Wolverine). Finally, I also realised that I had admired this style for practically forever, but always found a reason why "that wasn't for me": I wasn't skinny enough, wasn't cool enough, it was too attention-grabbing or required a level of confidence I did not possess. I'm still working through my trauma, and this isn't the only style I gravitate to (no one fits into one aesthetic), but I find going back to my little kid self and what she found cool, to be pretty helpful.

i think it’s also really worth to look at things in your closet and really thinking about if you’re going to/enjoy wearing it, i used to hate my style that i used to love because it didn’t align with my interests anymore, i’m not calling for an immediate disregard of old garments, but look at what you have and think of if you can style it differently and if you cant and ultimately don’t feel comfortable in it you can upcycle or donate it

i recently saw someone with the most BEAUTIFUL pleated ankle length wrap skirt, but like, i could never, i don't enjoy long skirts

The trick with the pictures is very clever. I have been searching for „my style“ a lot lately and often looked at pictures like the ones you showed. It didn’t help, one reason is probably that celebrity bias. Personal style takes a lot of courage, especially if one isn’t a typical beauty. I have a good feeling about what I like but have been taught not to wear tight clothes or deep necklines and getting rid of these notions takes some time. But I feel that one positive about the whole TikTok styles situation is that there isn’t this one trendy style anymore one has to follow or, on the other hand, individual style has become trendy.

one thing that helped me was i stopped looking at celebrities and influencers for inspiration, and instead looked at small creators or real life people on the street.

Being middle aged definitely has it's advantages--I'm not as influenced, I'm much more interested in comfort, quality and fit as opposed to tends. I feel sorry for young women right now. They don't really know that they are being sold a lot of garbage clothing and due to social media, they are bombarded with too many ideas. I had the JCPenney catalog growing up along with magazines aimed at young women, what people wore on TV and that was really about it. Clothing was so much better made too. Great video.

LOL that’s me on the thumbnail 💅🏽

I've been off Instagram and tiktok for about 2 months now & it has changed the game for me. no more pushy ads or micro trends being waved in front of me. more time for me to explore what I actually like! its been great

This is more on the vein of inspiration, but following people with similar body type as you has massively helped me. I was buying clothes that I loved but just did not suit me and was stuck in this loop with it!

This is the first video of yours I've watched and I'm a big fan! You're very real and gave so much good info. Love your work, keep it up!!!

For my 3 style words i havent been able to choose the first word because i dress comfortably, relaxed, natural or laid back but none of those words really clicked but breathable really did! I feel like that encompasses both comfort, relaxation slightly oversize and natural fabrics! Really, thank you for everything in this video but especially for that part.

Usually I don't find videos talking about that topic very useful, nor interesting. But it wasn't the case with this one, I think your video is great and very helpful ! I'm glad the algorithm recommended it to me !

So good to watch a video with different ideas

love this video. I was not interested in fashion before, I just came across this one girl that just loved it (Gittemary Johansen, I recommend her channel, it's so much fun; her channel is about sustainability but she fiercely love fashion as well) and it opened a whole new world to me. Once I was subscribed under her channel, other channels popped up and I was slowly learning. I came across most of these tips before but it is good to remind them as we are drowned in fast fashion BS and inluencing to buy more.. When you were talking about that skirt, it reminded me this mary jane shoe trend. When I first saw it (with more than 3 minibelts), I didn't like it that much. But after I¨ve seen is so many times... now I am looking for my perfect forever piece. xD Tbh, I think that trends can help you to find your new core pieces of wardrobe, but one has to go about it in clever way, not just let themselves be influenced and forget it shortly after.

Wow! I just found your channel and I love it! Thank you for making genuinely good content that has something interesting to say (which I think is rare, content wise nowadays). Your videos are helping me put into words feelings that I’ve been trying to pin down❤️