Jordan Peterson Teaches a Shy Kid How to Communicate

This kid thinks he’s a bad communicator but he hit the nail on the head with his observation and then knew exactly how to ask it. He’s on the right track.

Deep conversations with the right people are priceless

"You aren't delivering a speech to people. You are speaking to individuals.' That is so powerful.

Why I love Jordan Peterson is because he gives great, actionable answers. No hocus-pocus 'good vibes' speech about 'just be confident' or 'be yourself', but an actual answer that you can follow and put into action!

Let me tell you this advice WORKS. I basically never bothered to study when growing up really at all, and over the years I isolated myself playing video games and got to the point I couldn't formulate sentences properly, because I didd't have much to talk about, and my lack of speaking to people made me worse over the years. But one day I decided to start reading and every time I had a sleep after the read (I read on a night), I used to wake up every morning and my words would just flow from my mouth... It's weird but it's true.

- Practice is important. - To become great at articulation, you need to both read a lot and write a lot. - Preferably write 15 minutes every day. Do this for 10 years and you straighten out your thinking a lot. - If you want to speak effectively, you need to know way more than what you're speaking about. - When you do public speaking, you're not speaking to a group. You always speak to one individual. Pick one in your mind. - Don't talk to a thousand people: Talk to a thousand individuals, one at a time. - You don't 'deliver a talk' to an audience. You have a conversation with them. - Having the goal to be a great communicator is a great start. - It doesn't matter what you do, whatever you do, you are 10 times better at everything if you are a good communicator. - If you're a very good negotiator, everyone walks away from the negotiation happy. And that comes from communicating effectively.

Advice to shy people: Sometimes in your life you feel like it is easy to talk and communicate. sometimes not. When you feel it is goes for you smoothly, just talk as much as you can and try to consolidate this ability, feeling and mindset. After some time you will become better at speaking and engaging people.

Can't believe no one in the audience clapped at this answer. It was brilliant, insightful and extremely useful for everyone and anyone. Amazing to listen to this man, always.

‘Step one: never answer a question with less than 800 words’ -Jordan peterson

•read •write (what you think) •practice •keep practicing •have something to say •pay attention to who you're talking to •engage Communicate, and do it well

Other than practice, here's the gist of what Dr. Peterson was saying: - View communication skills (like any other skill) as input and output - Be well-prepared for communications first by managing your input, understanding the talk subject very well and broadly - Make sure your communicative output is not to a whole audience, but to specific individuals in the audience, one at a time. - One last precious statement from him was about the "incalculable economic benefit" of being able to think, write, speak, and read as a liberal art's bachelor graduate, but I think it applies to any human being with a brain, a will, and a heart as well.

I love this. I have such a difficult time speaking. I’m not articulate. My mind processes the words quicker than my mouth can say them so I skip words or say simple words. Anxiety also doesn’t help. Reading is helping me. I’m going to take his tip of writing my thoughts down after reading. ❤

One thing I would add to his excellent advice: if you are young, allow for the fact that you are young and still learning. Respect yourself as a young person on the way to being a highly accomplished older person. I am 80 and that's how it looks from here. The beautiful courage of young people sometimes takes my breath away.

How to communicate: 1. Read more, write to synthesize your ideas, & practice (know way more about the topic than you have to say} 2. Talk to individuals in the group and get feedback by engaging individually 3. Aim to be a better communicator 4. PRACTICE

0:30 Practice 0:38 Read a lot and write down what you think 2:42 Have something to say and next thing pay attention to who you are talking too 3:17 We don't deliver a talk to an audience, you are actually engaged in a conversation with an audience 3:44 learn how to communicate 4:24 You can think, you can write, you can speak, you've read something, the economic value of that is incalculable

Where the shy kid at?

Peterson was always on a "different level", but in 2022 he hit "the next level".

How to communicate according to JP • You need to have 10x the knowledge of the topic you're going to talk about. And then articulate yourself and pin point things that need to be said. • It's intimidating to talk in front of 1000 people, but it's easier to talk to 1 person. So focus on 1 person and speak. That also gives you feedback, whether they're bored, engaged or asleep, in that case move on to the next person. • Write. Writing 15 minutes a day will streamline your thoughts and make articulating your thoughts easier for you. Do that for 10 years daily and you're set. • PRACTICE! Good luck my friend 👍🏼

I like how he Geizes a one word answer, that nails it, he then give him a tool ( reading&writing), and how to add it into your day, and then he brings in examples, then comes back to the person asking the question and ends his monologue with the first word and therefore with the same answer. This is actually pretty well done

Jordan is such a great guy. I don't understand how anyone can hate him. Truly a role model.