5 HUGE Mistakes Autistic People Make In Dating

You know what as autistic adult, I found the most difficult is like every time I initiate something no matter what, I feel like I'm a rookie and this is the first time, most of the time the people tries to correct me, command or they don't like the way I know how to do it..." autism is like a invisible concrete block over your back "😢

Thomas, I got to the 22 minute mark, then turned this off. Beat myself up a little bit mentally, put on workout clothes, and then prepaid a yearly gym membership. I just got back from a 1 1/5 hour workout. I’m back on my “StrongLifts” routine with added abs exercises. So, at first I felt really triggered by this video and then after processing WHY I felt that way- (I have gained weight, I hate looking in the mirror, my cute clothes don’t fit right, and I recently had some cool photos taken of me in a waterfall and I really disliked the way I looked). I did something about it. Clean eating has already been in the works and some sporadic walking/hiking/skating- nothing routine though. I was like kinda mad and upset at this video but honestly- it motivated me to get back into my fitness routine. So, thank you. This was the one extra motivation I needed to get back to a healthier lifestyle. And hey, I am in a better mood too. Even if my legs are jello right now. 😂

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❤ Ive been single now for 11 yrs & happier than i ever was in any relationship! 😊❤

Thomas you do make me smile.

Looks do matter, but theres nuance, preference is for the individual to care about themselves and as a result take care of themselves concerning grooming, but personality can make an individual more atractive or less attractive. The other aspect that matters to me is if they are a kind person. Another thing about looks is beauty is a physical expression of health. Theres a reson why healthy looks beautiful to us.

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Yes Thomas!! John Snow look would be sooo 🔥on you!

1. Focusing only on romance or whatnot and not communicating with platonic attachments, resulting in those relationships fizzling. Autistics have a smaller social battery, and this can have large impact on mental health. Build a network of friends first; socializing looks similar between romance and friends in many ways. 2. People say what's inside counts, but looks do matter as well. Babies look longer at a stereotypically attractive face. Take care of your skin and body. Hygiene is of utmost importance. Exercise and healthy eating are a must for mobility. 3. Using only dating apps. Try the gym or board game club. 4. Assuming neurotypicals will appreciate or accommodate directness. 5. Not allowing space for others to reciprocate. Loneliness can lead to a strong desire, especially when you have trouble connecting to others. (I can relate to this; got dumped by a kindred spirit). Thomas, are you wearing eyeliner on your lower lids?

THANK YOU THOMAS ❤

So good!

"You gotta let her know you're a douche" I think your eyebrow piercing already states that loud and clear. 🤣 I kid, I kid, thanks for the video.

Great tips Thomas, I would just add that I think online dating is particularly difficult if you're neurodivergent. It's easier in some ways to have access to a lot more people in your area but at the same time people also behave how they wouldn't in person eg just disappearing because they've decided they're no longer interested. I've found it useful to watch videos from Matthew Hussey, as you've said some people can't cope with constant messaging but there's other ways you can determine if someone is actually interested in you. Whether that's before a date or even after.

It sounds tooooo complicated

it is not a solution to give the romance&love box to friends. actually.. still horrible and very hurtful to fail at it then. maybe even slightly worse...

Ratio love isn't real.

1) It’s pretty common for EVERYONE to obsessively focus on romantic interests to the exclusion of all else while dating, to the point that it is a common trope in songs to ditch your friends because you are gaga for a romantic interest. 5:45- Please, ramble, go all over the place, and fall apart freely, Thomas! 🤣 2) I’ve met plenty of attractive guys who were a-holes; but yeah, pick your best pictures in the last year or so for the dating app! (Edit: I’m now stuck editing this comment because I accidentally hit the reply button.) 3) Eating right and exercising is expensive in terms of time, mental energy, and money, just saying. Junk food is the cheapest way to get a quick high. So basically, what you’re saying here is classist. Dating is classist. Not shocking, really. Good thing my probably more than 50% body fat butt isn’t looking to date any time soon! 4) So hit the thrift stores for some decent clothing, okay. Stabbing? What is stabbing? 🤨 5) You sound like a woman, bud. I mean, you look good, but you sound like a woman. Thanks, Thomas, this was great to watch while drinking! Made me laugh many times! 🥴 3) WTF? How are we only on #3? Am I too drunk to count? Also, late hubby and I found eachother on Match, and we both had serious dating issues. That said, I had to go through several dead ends to find him. I recommend a first date in a neutral, public location you can leave on your own without the help of the other person quickly if needed. 4) Why can’t you show 4 “like a normal person”? No idea, Thomas; shocked, really! /s Remember, being a manipulative controller is the opposite of being honest and direct! And a lot of people occupy the opposite end of the honest and direct spectrum! 5) Late hubby went through a short period where he was e-mailing me 8 times a DAY. I was a single mother with a full-time job. Once a day, folks! Once a day! But, if someone is ignoring you for over a week… yeah, they just aren’t that into you, folks. Following some general rules like this may help in early dating