Trauma is irreversible. How it shapes us is our choice. | Sasha Joseph Neulinger | TEDxBozeman
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Published 2015-05-20
Sasha Joseph Neulinger is a native of Pennsylvania who moved to Montana to pursue a BFA in Film Production from Montana State University. He is the Co-Founder and Head of Production at Step 1 Films which has a mission “To deliver truthful and compassionate storytelling through the unifying experience of film.” Sasha Joseph has worked behind the scenes on National Geographic’s award winning series, “America, The Wild” as an editing assistant and production assistant. At Step 1 Films, he has produced, directed, and edited multiple commercial videos for various corporate clients, including Simms Fishing Products and Wisetail, among others. He is currently directing his first feature length documentary, “Rewind To Fast-Forward,” an autobiographical film about his life surviving multi-generational sexual abuse. Sasha Joseph also travels nationally as a public speaker, advocating for reforms in child advocacy and child abuse prevention.
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All Comments (21)
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I am 56, and just now letting the world know. Thanks
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Sasha i just watched your movie. I am 64 years old. I was abused. I never married, had children, lived with anyone.....as I’ve been afraid i could hurt another as I was hurt. No more hiding their sins, I am done carrying the shame belongs to them. Thank you for helping me reach this place.
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Too bad we can't bring charges against an emotionally abusive parent.
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This made me cry so so hard, but I really really needed this tonight. I've been struggling to cope with my past abuse, and this gives me the courage to finally speak up about it
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I just watched his documentary “Rewind” it is so hard to imagine him going through such devastating things at such a young age. May God continue to strengthen him.
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So few men are willing or able to come forward and admit to having experienced childhood sexual abuse. I applaud you for your heartfelt honesty and courage and for reaching out to help others both men and women. Your contribution to healing from this trauma is immeasurable valuable and so needed today. Thank you.
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Who's here after watching his film called Rewind?
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I want to be able to heal from my trauma. I want to so badly
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i know the feeling all to well, , i hated myself, when i told the schools and the cops, nobody cared, i though something was wrong with me, i wanted to die, but glad now i never choose that path, i hope you're movie does real good.
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Sasha you give path to help me understand the cuts on my body I bear from my first abuser as a child. I feel as though I have hugged you today as part of the healing process. I hope to plant a tree when I am an old man for others to get shade like you.
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My father sexually abused my sister and in turn my sister showed me what my Dad did to her. Memories are like shards of glass, they will push there way to the surface sooner or later. I belief is, around thirty years old or so, those shards of memory are surfacing. I called my sister and told her how what she did to me affected me, and she started crying. I told her it wasn't her fault. We weren't even teenagers yet it lasts our entire life.
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Someone go up there and hug him! ARGHHHHH
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You are so brave man. I’m also 25 years old and was abused by my uncle. This video actually made me cry
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Powerful Sasha, and very eloquent. You are doing a great service for humanity. I am sure your film will be stunning.
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I bow down to your beautiful Soul for the love you are . Your voice of truth is the medicine for my wounded heart.
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Me too I was 5, now 43. I have difficulty to connect with people ,And never been in relationship. since I have 21 years old. I've got great friends,but hope that one day I will be able to open myself to love and being love .
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our parents teach us how to be ,or destroy everything of who we were meant to be .
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We do not realize the insidious nature of trauma. While the event is more often 'tangible' (if one can put a hand on it), what happens to a person at the mental level is slow, silent, and stealthy. I agree that how it shapes us is our choice. However, the healing is not so easy as we would like to believe.
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Sadly this is way more common than you think. Nicely expressed and overcome. Had similar experiences, though not as horrific, same effects/results. Good to remind myself of self acceptance :)
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I just watched Rewind. I've never seen a documentary so powerful. You're an inspiration.
