Healing Trauma in IFS Therapy: Unblending from Exiles

It can't be overstated how well you explain these concepts. Honestly better than Dr. Richard Schwartz. I'm excited for your channel to blow up and help people.

The world needs more gentle and compassionate doctors like Dr Tori. 🌻

Somatic/emotional flashbacks are far more elusive and confusing than anyone describes it. I experience them, and I finally know how to identify them. I feel it is important to communicate my finding here. I’ll use my personal example. My trauma is being required to function at my age level as a child, in first grade. I was challenged to catch up to others, and I missed all the early developmental years from being in an orphanage. So, the emotional flashback, is that feeling of “frustrating challenge”, is applied to a current real life circumstance, like my participation in therapy. It literally feels like therapy is too challenging and too hard, present moment things become the blame for how I feel, not past circumstances. That’s an emotional flashback. It gets put into, projected, or taken from, real life present moment things. It makes you experience the present differently, it really doesn’t feel or look like a flashback at all! But it is!

This is sooooo good! The last 5 years I have done some healing, etc. A few months ago, at the age of 68, some things happened that brought up deep trauma, even though I was not sure what was happening. I have tried to understand and connect with shadow work, inner child work, getting rid of my ego etc. I have just come across IFS and for the first time I feel this all makes sense and can find it workable for self-healing. And have already experienced some relief and beginning to feel love for myself. Thank you.

Fantastic! The neurobiology of trauma 3:40 was so interesting that hippocampus fails to time stamp under high stress hormones and the untagged traumatic memory is felt as timeless and relevant to all current moments until treated. Great explanation

I've been working with a therapist for the past couple of years who introduced me to IFS. Along the way I've read books by Richard Schwartz, Jay Early and others and watched a lot of videos and I have to say your explanation of IFS is the clearest and most helpful of them all. Well done!

Finally! I've spent 3-4 years in therapy attempting to " regulate " my emotions and feeling shut down or shut up. My inner child is joyous to hear there is hope AND true healing . I like everything you said and the compassion you in your voice 😊

Tori I can't think you enough. My mom is finally dealing with the trauma of her childhood. She starts therapy in a week And I show her your videos. She loves them. You bring so much knowledge. You helped me through a really hard time in my life And now you are helping her. I know that you were just a 7th grader when I met you, but even then there was something deeply calming and positive about you. You have a very special gift. Thank you for taking the time and energy to make these videos. I I have a feeling that they are helping so many people :)

I recognize compassion and love in your eyes. You're are talking from your true self and that is shining clearly on the video. Thank you

i do think some of my exiles aren’t just from childhood. I have some pretty traumatizing experiences in my early 20s that definitely became exiles. but the behaviors that led me to that trauma definitely stemmed from unresolved trauma from childhood & adolescence !

Thank you Doctor..I can't thank you enough.. You articulate such complex thoughts effortlessly and with so much ease..I wait for your videos..it's treat for my Eyes, ears and my heart. I can feel the healing inside me .you are changing my life..thank you a thousand times..I never knew this was possible for me

7:00 Super crucial neurological reason for feelings from trauma feeling as if happening now

Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience. My personal therapist recommended Richard Schwartz and after a couple videos I found your series of IFS. I found your explanation very compassionate and clear and I was able to connect with it. I'm currently on video 4 and I feel overwhelming sadness listening to this video because much of what you have said has triggered my overwhelming sadness in the wounded part of me :( I now understand that it's only a part of me and its not my whole self and it gives me hope to unblend and heal my exiles and protectors. I was able to listen to the part of me and give space to express itself and now I feel more clear on how it's feeling and why. My protector was to hide how I was feeling, not to feel the sadness at all, push it away because of the fear of being alone with those strong feelings, and then the feelings of shame will follow. I now feel more courageous for when the wounded part of me triggers again to explore some more. This is why I say thank you. I start a 3 year BSC degree in Counselling and Physcotherapy in September and I will follow your work. I hope you find what you're looking for with this channel, it's fantastic work.

I want to say how much i appreciate your videos. My therapist and i are working on parts work and I tried to read/listen to the audio book for no bad parts. Unfortunately i would become overwhelmed and begin uncontrollably sobbing without an understanding as to why and gave up on the book. My therapist sent me your videos and it has helped me to develop a better understanding

The way you explain unblending from exiles and protectors really helps me know the foundation of these principles in my bones. Thank you! I 💗 IFS!

Dr. you are a genius of synthesizing analyzing breaking down very complex concepts and making them really simple

1:36 unblending 1:51 protectors 3:00 wounded or exiled, vs protectors 09:45 name it to tame it strategies for truama flashbacks

I think this is one of the best explanations of the IFS system that ive ever come across. Thank you for putting it out there for free.. this will bless many hurting people and definitely better empower therapists. God bless you Tori and continue to use you as His vessel to bring healing in our broken world ❤

Please Tori come back, with lots of learning. Your education is so clear and wise. You are a blessing for me!

This is one of the most profound video I’ve watched! Thank you!!!