Leading Vs Controlling: What A Man Leading In A Relationship Looks Like - RLS

This is why women can let some men lead; these men make you feel safe. It is safe to let him lead because he has your best interest in mind. A leader also knows when to seek help as well. Preach good sir! He understands the assignment! 🖤

A leader allows for open communication and sharing of ideas. You are right, a leader is empathetic. A leader walks the walk and talks the talk. A servant leader is key. A leader knows that he doesn't have expertise in everything and allows room to accept other's ideas. A leader is not selfish. A leader does out of love. A leader thinks before they speak. A leader is a visionary, inventive, and sophisticated in their ideas. Anything other than this, is a controlling person.

Leadership is service

Leadership in relationships is generally leading by example and taking initiative in the areas where you can. If what you are doing yields positive results and is enviable, people around you will logically follow if they are so inclined. It takes a lot of restraint, patience, understanding, and confidence to let things fall where they may. Many people are not leaders, they are bossy, selfish and uncooperative. They also get off on dominating others and being authorities and above them, which is unfortunate because most people do not enjoy having that yielded over them, especially women.

My husband led us into debt, sins, his way of needing everything, strife, abuses, neglect, exhaustion and harm. Told me as a woman I was 2nd rate and to shut up. He wanted a maid, cook, nymphomaniac, babysitter, and accountant while he ran around STILL on me. Our sick, twisted, perverted society trained him and encouraged him to be that way. And when I didn't want to live anymore under a boot or in life, he blamed me and took everything from me in a divorce. People can be cruel, yet inspite of that this helps me see good men exist, and I hope they're not all taken. Thank for being human.

Empathy is crucial, but sometimes people don’t always know what that means or looks like because there are different forms of empathy. The golden rule is always a good foundation, but that’s where most people stop with their empathy. I would argue a better form of empathy is the “platinum rule” in which you treat others the way they want to be treated because not everyone wants to be treated the way you would want to be treated. Having a genuine understanding of their wants and needs from their own perspective is important. And then communicating and compromising between your different perspectives for the best interest of both of you as a team in the relationship.

0:51 💚💜 “takin care of the people in your charge” Thank you

A breath of fresh air. Once you date a man who thinks like that and break up with him you never date just anyone. You are bound to be picky, preferring to be alone instead Cause refreshing men are rare. MOST PEOPLE ARE CONTROLLERS NOT LEADERS! Most men turn around and say women do not want to be led. True, there are women like that but mostly it is resisting "controllership" not leadership.

That was the best definition of leadership I have ever heard. I've been through military leadership academy and he just summed it all up in 1:50. 💯

Love this! There is a line between leading and controlling. And knowing how a man defines leadership (I really like the airplane/flight scenario Dre used) is KEY!!!!!

Wow. I’m so grateful for this. On a huge level after what I just experienced over the course of 2 years. The polar opposite of his good leading advice. Crazy lack of empathy and when it was all finished he did verbally share almost word for word that he requires control and obedience over respect and love. I’m trying to fuel myself up with some better discernment next time. Cheers to healthy leaders ✨🙌🏼

I think controllers say they are sacrificial. They do everything they do though to get what they want. Their way of caring for others is by controlling them because they believe they are the hero to be followed and other ideas are obviously dumb ideas.

Can I double like this! Such a humble person. Love

One of the best thing I’ve heard in a loooooooon time! Kudos to you 🙏🏽

I had to be in a respectful relationship learning to give and receive respect before I had any concept of what a leader should be. Being of authority I must first be under authority that's based on respect not fear cohersion or intimidation. Some get it some don't. The Savior "marveled" at one man who got it so much so it was put in Scripture for generations to see.

The difference between Leading and Controlling is Controlling someone is dictating all your moves what,when,How…Leading is wen you dictate OUR moves the things we do together Me and you type Shit

Some people are getting it twisted so THANK YOU!

This needs more views!! I guess this is a message ppl not ready to hear yet. Happy holidays y’all ❤️🎄

thank you guys, really blessed by this

I like the airport example, big ups for sharing this