The Love Expert: The REAL Reason We’re Lonely, Loveless, Depressed - Alain De Botton, School Of Life

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"Love is a skill to be learned, not just an emotion to be felt."💯

As a therapist myself for 37 years, Alain is so articulate and affirming of the importance of the work. Sometimes I really lose track of that because it is such cloistered work and after many years it just feels normal. I lose track of the amazing privilege of witnessing the vulnerability and courage of people. So many of those I see have helped me grow and inspired me even though they came for help themselves. I think Alain is just brilliant. Thanks for this conversation.

Please work on giving your videos better titles. He is one of the greatest philosophers of our time...to call him a "love expert" is demeaning.

I love this (paraphrased): People always get unwell because of love (not referring to strictly romantic love). All mental unwellness stems from a deficit of love. There is always an experience of an unbearable cruelty in some way that breaks the mind. And when people get well there is always an experience of love that heals. And an act of love saves us/redeems us.

People are not getting enough good quality rest. We were not meant to be on high alert - the stress response should be transitory.

Alain de Botton is a philosopher and therapist who understands the human psyche more than anyone. I love that he’s an atheist but understands the profound importance of religion. I can listen to him talk all day long! Thank you for this interview!!

“Love expert” sounds so cheezy 🙄 this man can explain everything related to people, being more of a “life expert”

A good life isn’t a problematic free life, it’s a life in which we’ve found a way to learn from our inevitable pain - what a quote!!

Alain De Botton is one of our modern-day great philosophers. His take on relationships is amazing and reading his work has helped me tremendously!

Kids may not need the 'perfect' parent but they must have one that loves them and shows it so the kids know they are loved.

This interview with Alain feels to me like a warm hug in itself. The desire for understanding from Stephen, a willingness to be vulnerable in his questioning, and the deep insight clearly and gently expressed by Alain… Wow, powerful indeed. Love and appreciate them both! 🙏❤️

"The graceful acceptance of your miniscule position in the cosmos is the gateway to calm & harmony." - YES YES YES YES YES!:hands-yellow-heart-red::hands-yellow-heart-red::hands-yellow-heart-red::hands-yellow-heart-red:

🙏🏾If anyone from the DOAC team is reading this, is it possible to make the YT titles less negatively charged? There is so much wisdom, optimism and hope in so many of your interviews -- and because I gain tremendous value from them, I also want to be sharing them with friends and fam who could also gain value from them too. But sharing a video with an over-the-top negative title that's preying on our vulnerabilities can more often than not come across as insensitive/preachy rather than uplifting/insightful/hopeful, particularly with people who have not yet heard of the channel and are sensitive to the topics that are being discussed (arguably they would gain the most from these episodes and this community). Aside from this I absolutely loved this episode with Alain and his eloquent delivery of life truths - I was resisting the urge to pause and reflect after every sentence 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thanks so much!!

Thank you Steven for allowing your guests to speak freely and seamlessly about their expertise and topics of interests... it's such a relief to listen to a flowing conversation where the interviewer does what he's supposed to do (listening with intent) without constant interruptions and interjections. Thank you Steven. Keep it up. Intelligent questions, fewer interjections and impeccable listening skills. 👏 Bravo.

Alain De Botton, is truly a unique and gifted being of an intellectual level to be experienced. I admired his work for the past twenty years, and follow his progress on social media. What a gem to the academic realm of learning. I am watching from the Caribbean-Trinidad and Tobago. Bravo!

Please bring Alain back! Soothing, articulate, inspiring, spiritual and thought provoking. This 'like' 👍🏼 is gilded.

This is one of the episodes I've been looking forward to listening to ever since I discovered DOAC. I never thought it would ever happen yet I kept on hoping and here it is. I bless the powers that allowed you to be Steven Bartlett. Thank you so much for all you're doing.

I was raised to not deal with my emotions by parents who never learned to deal with their emotions. Something tells me this goes back many generations.

I love Alain De Botton, The school of life helped me tremendously with my anxiety. Highly recommend his lectures on YouTube . My favourite quote of his “ When I meet someone , I ask how mad are you ? Because we all are mad “