The Abandonment Loop: Why You Push Them Away
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Published 2024-07-20
In this video we talk about what I call the abandonment loop: the vicious cycle in which the more we try to get people to like us, the more we subtly undermine our own inner authority. This cascades into us both pushing other people away from us (as we no longer have our own authentic energy to attract them) and sabotaging our own inner relationships with ourselves (because we are in a loop of denying our true selves in favor of what other people think)
Let's talk about how this works, why it happens, and what we can do about it!
All Comments (21)
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I have been dumped after 26 years relationship , four months later , I am working hard on myself to be a better person , for sooo many years I realised I have put my ex , in front of me , and myself in the background , and this is the result. I am trying really bad , I am trying to succeed. Wish me luck , I deserve it!
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I'm grateful that this video popped up on my feed. You mentioned two things that I've been trying to work through; breaking the cycle from going into the world with a begging cup for validation & approval and instead cultivating it within myself; giving myself permission to "take up space in this world and the right to simply exist. Thank you Andrew for making me feel less like a failed fool & more like someone on an adventure. Great wisdom, great facial expressions & great visual optics💫
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You are one of the most authentic channels when it comes to personal development. Thank you 💜
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I found, that I usually was always the one being dumped. My relationships were never longer then a few months. Whenever I fell in love deeply, somehow believing this would never end, it did. I lost myself in that fear of abandonment and in that vision of who I was with this person by my side. Never thinking about who I am without them. And this is the energy I probably gave off at some point, which made me push them away unfortunately… thank you for the video. I will try to travel by myself now. It’s something I was always afraid of but there are so many things I wanted to see!
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It's just the way you say it that makes so much impact
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This video is absolutely incredible! Exactly what I need at the perfect time. I will replay this a lot! Thankyou x a milllion! 💯👏🙏
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Truly great information on this channel. Keep it up and success is bound to follow. This channel deserves to be known by many more!
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You are amazingly good at explaining complex things very simple.
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I needed this video.
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Your going to be well known my friend, soon enough keep up the great work !!!
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I love your videos! Thank you ❤
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This vides is so on point. Thank you so much.
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Great video thanks 😊
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Thank you for the content. What's more, I find the lighting of this video amazing! Would love to know what you use ❤
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Nice Video again, keep going :) liked the camera perspective way more
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well said man
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So true. That happens to me.
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Hi Andrew! I love what you're doing and new subscriber here! By the way, I help content creators to increase their online presence through video editing and enhancing their post and reels for better engagement and audience retention, which is why I'm tuning into your vlog and learning a lot. Just sending this message because I love your work!
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Trust me . Nobody truly gives a f about anyone else. Once you understand that …,
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I'm still in a depressive situation 😢
