If I ignore my alters will they go away?

Published 2023-07-07
Although I have been diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder for many years, I still have ambivalence and mixed feelings towards having alters. In the video I explore whether it is possible to live without alters, why I have alters and whether my life would be as functional and meaningful if I didn't have them.

This video is narrated by Naomi, host of our system, Autistic Selves.

All Comments (13)
  • @woIf
    I love your videos. I was so happy to see you are still making them! Pretty sure i'm not a system, but I also had a very similar experience as a sensitive autistic kid who was also mostly left to fend for myself in an impatient and aggressive world. It is really helpful to hear your story as an autistic person with a different experience from me, and I also feel like I can better understand folks with DID now. I hope this video may have the same effect for allistic DIDers.
  • @onemeowatatime
    Thank you for your beautiful video. I call it beautiful because your art is very expressive and pleasing to the eye, even the emotional and intense drawings because they show how you feel. I am also a sytem. You sharing your story is inspiring me to share too. Perhaps not to anyone in particular but as a youtube thing as well. I admire your progress as well! Im working on myselves too
  • @andersonsystem2
    Good video and yes we been diagnosed twice ourselves but we deal with denial sometimes too. Its hard when you live in a world that is not plural. Good video nice too hear from you all again.
  • @FlowergateSystem
    We also are autistic and a relatively small system, so it's good to know that we aren’t alone. :)
  • @lindseynaylor
    I've always felt different than others. When I was young, I thought my trauma made me different. As an adult, I gave a couple lectures at a woman's trauma center and realized I'm considerably more different from those with similar or seemingly worse trauma than my own. I've always felt there is more to know about my trauma, and somehow, my brain is suppressing it. I've often wondered if hypnosis would help or further harm me. I am 43 years old, and I have four autistic kids whom I successfully raised and homeschooled. I didn't realize I have Autism until I read a book by a woman diagnosed late in life, and it made tears stream down my face. She said things I'd never told a soul. Last night, I finally decided I'd try to write a book and try to share my inner raw thoughts safely through a character. So, I began to write some notes on a page, and it quickly developed into a fractured persona. I took a break from writing my notes and did an Internet search for multiple personality disorders and found DID commonalities with ASD. I feel a bit at peace. For now, I am going to focus on writing my book and hope when it's done, it is coherent and understandable by those who will read it. I plan to make it a fictional accounting because I can't remember many things. I often times explain my brain like a library card filing system that was dumped on the floor, mixed up, haphazardly put back into the wooden box, and having information not properly accessible because it's been stored in some random, nonsensical location and locked up so I can't access it when I need it. Thank you for your YouTube and Insta page.
  • @MaliaMydnight
    Oh my God. Y'all make us feel so much better every single time. Our therapist recommended y'all, and we're so thankful she did. We're so glad y'all exist, and we appreciate that y'all make these videos. We'd be lost if she hadn't. ♡ I'm (the core and host will use singulars) still dealing with settling it into reality that I have alters, and they exist to keep me safe. 🥰 We watched the Korean show "Bad and Crazy," and many arguments could be made on the various aspects of how it shows what it's like to have an alter, but it struck a real chord with us. We'd like to note that it does display possibly triggering scenes, so watch at your own discretion (also, when it comes to most Korean shows, it's not ever that bad. We've watched- because most of us love Korean shows 😅 A LOT, and there are some that are more gritty and so on, but for "everyday" type shows, and "Bad and Crazy" might be under it a bit, but the alter knows how to fight, and there's fight scenes, and scenes of..y'know...well.Well just say theres scenrs of the main character's past and scenes of it happening to others and it's the reason alters exist. But again, it's a Korean show, so while it's gritty in THAT (coughcough) sense, it's still fairly mild. We would tense up at times, having a small reaction, but we were not fully triggered. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Watch Zombieverse if you need a pallet cleanser. It's literally the best reality show we've ever seen. Reality TV really isn't in our wheelhouse (except one, and it's actually more of an odd curiosity) of what we each like, but this one is like nothing we've ever seen, and definitely recommend when you need a good laugh! ♡), as it does show how and why the alter is formed. But they were very intuitive to how it feels to have and alter. The "lurking from behind" feeling, the "lol we're gonna co host, you and me, and we're gonna see how long we can keep this show RUNNIN!" feeling, the "Omg. OMg.OMG OMG NO NO NO WHAT ARE THEY DOING AND WHY OMG NO NO!" feeling, and if you have good communication with your alters the "I CAN NOT EVEN, SO CAN YOU? OMG CAN YOU DO THIS? OMG THANK YOU" feeling. But it was the unspoken, but very visible, how loving your alters and receiving it back. And much more visible, the true acceptance of not only having an alter, but acknowledging them, and loving them, and accepting them as who and what they are with that love. 🥰🤟🏼
  • @psychopompes
    We're also autistic and with a DID, and we also have a family. <3
  • @pardalote
    I couldn't find the sensory friendly version. Where is it? Thanks 🌻
  • @coolpal2026
    Awesome video! Can i ask why you, as Naomi, don't see yourself as an alter? Isn't the "host" the part (aka alter) that fronts the more often?