The argument free marriage | Fawn Weaver | TEDxPortland

1. I love her message 2. I love her delivery 3. I wish my arms looked as good as hers do

Loved how she randomly talked about how handsome and awesome her husband is

husband and wife who show respect in their words ends up in healthy marriage

My therapist told me, “you can be right or be married”. I believe that. I’m in the middle of a divorce

This works when you are in a relationship where BOTH people agree to work on themselves and allow their partners to work on themselves as well. There are people who are so violent and selfish that they continue to violate their partners even when their partners are being vulnerable.

I am absolutely In awe of you. Your words have truly set a flame in my heart to be watchful and careful of my words and to follow my first emotion. Thank you for renewing my thinking in a way...giving me a taste of why love is the root of all things. Congratulations Fawn! And thank you!

Amen! I've been married for two years and my husband and I have never argued. Everyone tells us "Oh that's because you don't have kids yet." or "You're still in the honeymoon stage." We just smile because we know that's not it. It's because we actively work at loving eachother! It's not an accident. I look forward to the many years and challenges that life brings because I have the best partner to go through them with!

My husband and I have a marriage like this. ❤ We have disagreements and tense moments no doubt, but my husband just doesnt believe in screaming at each other or fighting. It took some time but I have learned to really appreciate his way of dealing with conflict between us lol. He does exactly what you did, he goes on a walk or a drive. Sometimes we even go to bed mad, like so many people say not to do. But its crucial for us to calm down and come back later, and always after taking a break, we feel a lot more compassion for each other while discussing the problem.

Her: « You really hurt my feelings » Him: « It was not my intention » and walks away without ever addressing the issue. Over and over again. Yeah, you can’t make a relationship right with the wrong person, no matter how much you master the art of self-containment...

My boyfriend and I are always fighting about the littlest, most irrelevant things. They always blow up into something more. This taught me to stop that and realize that my relationship and the love between us is more important than scarring until it’s too late.

The key is to just be a grown adult and not use relationships and marriages as a one sided power trip of self validation like 99% of people do. If you know what you believe and your partner has a different opinion just listen to, respect and accept what they believe. Most couples see arguments no matter how small or pointless they are as a contest of who can belittle the other into submitting to their belief. They forget the million other qualities and reasons they have chosen to be with that person because they can't regulate their emotions properly and enough of these arguments can be totally detrimental to a relationship because like this lady states in the heat of the moment you can say things that are totally unforgivable and regretful and it usually winds up with one person feeling guilty and the other feeling resentful. EMOTIONAL REGULATION is the key ! :)

This and the book "The Argument Free Marriage" have done so much for me...and I'm only on "Day 12!" My husband and I had one year full of arguments and going into our second year of marriage, I feel confident that now we have the tools to continue down a happy and argument free road. It's amazing what a difference this has made! Thank you so much for sharing the secrets :)

Could not even get through this without crying. This is how I feel with my fiance. I treat every kiss goodbye as if it was our last, and kiss him like I'm never going to get the chance again.

This lady's "delivery" is not at issue.Her message from the heart is what matters to me..to everyone as far as I can tell.God bless that message.

Easily one of the most powerful TED talks I’ve ever seen. Astounding. 💥

I love this so much. Thank you, Sis Fawn. Amazing! I love the passion, confidence and energy; some folks "of another sort" see this as *dramatic*, but have no clue that there are billions of people around the world who perceive confidence and passion as strengths---not distractions or weaknesses.

I love to see someone champion selflessness, courage, humility, and other aspects of a good marriage.  Thank you, thank you.

Wow! I could have used this information. I love the simple mindset of "don't count on tomorrow." We aren't guaranteed a tomorrow. Brilliantly simple. Healthy conflict...I like it. What Fawn taught in the book and in her book has been really helpful. The biggest help has been the perspective of tomorrow not being promised. It'll stop you in our tracks from doing or saying something you may later regret.

I've been with my Fiance for almost 3 years now, and we've never had an arguement which was more than a silly disagreement. This Ted Talk has made that so, so easy, and I come back to it every once in a while.

This kind of relationship is totally possible. My husband and I are completely open and honest with one another and we NEVER fight nor have we fought in 18 years and yet we have a relationship that is passionate, playful, challenging, surprising, and fulfilling. He is the Guardian of My Soul. I am so certain of his love for me that no matter what is happening, I simply don't take it personally. If he is edgy with me, I simply say, "Babe, what's up?"