Dating and marriage in Vietnam ft Phuc Map

I was introduced to my Vietnamese wife by her aunt in the US who told me I needed to meet a nice girl . I went to Vietnam and met her , went through the paperwork and here we are 25 great years later .

Cảm ơn đã mời Phúc! It was a pleasure sharing my experience on your channel 🤜🤛

Having moved to Vietnam from the USA, my wife and I have been adopted by a wonderful family and many very close friends. We've been coming to Vietnam for five years and spent one and a half years here during the covid19 lockdown before deciding to sell everything in the USA and moved to Vietnam. We are slowly picking up phases and learning many customs. It not easy for us being elderly but we're trying. Vietnam is a fabulous country with amazingly friendly people and a rich history. But I was always told by my father "if you're not learning your wasting your life. So my wife and I are still learning and really appreciate our great new life in Vietnam. We feel truly fortunate and blessed to live this wonderful life in this great country! THANK YOU for having us Vietnam! Sam and Margaret Adler

My boyfriend is Vietnamese, and he's the best! Next week I move from Russia to Vietnam to live with him finally! I really love Vietnamese people, they are so kind, easy-going and and they can be amazing partners! Love to everyone!

I was once married to a lovely Japanese woman. Not learning Japanese made it impossible for me to ever really know her family, and ultimately that played a part in the demise of our relationship. Heed my advice, and the advice of the guy in this video...if you marry a woman (or man) from a country foreign to you, do your best to learn their native tongue.

I'm married to a beautiful, amazing Vietnamese woman and got married in Vietnam 19 years ago. However I'm super glad we met and fell in love in my home country.

I watched his video with you. And now I'm watching your video with him. Both of you are my favorite youtubers in Vietnam. Both of you have unique backgrounds and experiences. I love the advice and content.

"Happy in-laws, happy life." Good advice across ALL cultures. Interesting & useful video, Co Van!

This is such a positive, honest exchanges of marriage family relationship and culture. I love it! Thank you. Keep the good job.

Really enjoyed this video. I'm starting to learn more Vietnamese from my mum so hoping to strengthen my roots even more so this video is very encouraging.

I’m in a relationship with food and culture and the beauty of Vietnam 🇻🇳 😄

Ten years later, my wife is still the best thing I brought home from Vietnam.

As an American who is now married to a Vietnamese lady more than 45 years I respectfully offer the following comments. When comparing a Vietnamese with any foreigner many people seem to think that we are comparing cat with dog. We are in fact simply comparing human being with human being and that every single human being in this world is unique. Of course... cultural difference will play out but believe me... there are ladies here in Vietnam where my wife and I have been living for the last 30 years... yes means yes and no means no. Simply be natural and respectful with each-other and assuming both parties to a relationship have reasonably similar interests then happiness will abound. Resolve any issue that may have come up during the day before going to bed and let the passcode on the phones be the same as a matter of trust and simplicity. One thing that Phuc Map is absolutely correct is that foreigners in Vietnam should try to learn Vietnamese. Knowing Vietnamese makes the experience here so much more fun and indeed meaningful. Good luck with your channels!

Nice side step on the "in a relationship question". Love your work Van.

Loved seeing you two collaborate!!!

Whaouu. so far the best video i watched in 2022.. humbly thank you for sharing.. Both of you.. questions were accurate, and answers were inspiring.. one word.. keep going

Nice video.... love this topic and your guest is amazing with vietnamese language. Great topic...

My girlfriend is Vietnamese and I am learning Vietnamese now. It’s is challenging but it’s worth it. Very inspiring to see him speaking Vietnamese!

I was able to speak my wife's language before we were married, so when I went back for the wedding, I was able to speak with the whole family in either English or their dialect, whichever they chose to speak in. It's good that we're able to understand each other, and it's good that they were able to choose which language to use......after all, I am the foreigner. I have met a lot of women from my wife's country, who married guys from my country. Some have said their husbands banned them for speaking in their language at home, or even to cook food from where they came. Very few actually make the effort to learn the language of their wife. Perhaps this just comes down to a husband's need for control, I'm not sure.  But, I've been left wondering at times, if they guy doesn't like the food, doesn't like the culture, doesn't like the language, why did he get married to her in the first place? A lot of times at cultural gatherings, et al, they sit in the corner with other like minded countrymen, beers in their hands, and they don't involve themselves with the activities taking place around them. The other issue as well is when you have children. Children are very observant. They can pick up what their fathers think about where their mother comes from by his attitude towards anything related to her culture, language, etc. Imagine growing up and not being exposed in a positive way, to the culture of your mother?  This can also affect the way the children interact with their family members back in their mother's homeland as well, and, how the children see themselves as well, since half of who they are, comes from their mother.

Thanks for answering those question's and using some of the examples from phuc maps relationship with his wife before marriage and current life with inlaws. Good info!