Sad to see our 18yr Foster Son move out!

Guys remember that Zay will read these comments. Most of them have to hurt a guy who’s been through a Lot. Don’t give up on him, God works in mysterious ways His wonders to perform.

For whoever is confused by this video, let me just explain the whole situation simply with facts. 1) Zay travelled by bus from Peter's home in Charlotte to visit his mother in Virginia near DC. He did not give much heads-up to anyone about this trip. Apparently he was talking with his mom via phone calls recently. His mom is a recovered addict and works currently as a nurse. 2) Sometime during the trip, Zay tells Peter that he won't be returning, so Peter packs up Zay's stuff in the closet. 3) During Zay's trip to visit his mom, his mom apparently made him work in manual labor (doing gardening work), and she bought him a very expensive ($400+) ring, which he now wears. He also dyed his hair to a teal colour. 4) Peter + kids travel to pick Zay up from his mom's city 5) They all drive directly to Zay's new home to drop him off. So, Zay never returns to Peter's home after leaving on his trip to visit his mom (!). 6) Zay's new home: he is staying in Raleigh with his friend, who he met online 4 years ago, and the friend's mom. The friend is 17 years old and dropped out of high school 2 years back. It appears his new home is in a low income housing area. Apparently the friend's mom is a fan of Sabaton, which is a heavy metal band with dark and gruesome lyrics. 7) When dropping off Zay, Peter gives him a new phone and orders him a new bed. Because the friend's house has no extra bed currently. 8) Zay makes some statements like "this will be the last time you see me" and "you won't see me again for a long time" and "I won't be able to visit often". So it seems like he is practically gone forever 9) On his Instagram, Zay claims he left Peter's home because he thought Peter's mindset is too traditional and conservative, and Zay thought he cannot "be himself" in Peter's home. Sources: 1- mentioned in previous video 2- implied, see below 3,4- mentioned in prior video 5- because they are wearing the same clothes in this video as in the last video 6,7,8- in this video. Also Peter replied to a comment with the details about Zay's friend 9- Zay's Instagram My opinion is that this is a strange and sad situation, but not entirely surprising. Since Zay is already an adult, Peter cannot stop him from making an obviously bad decision. Zay only finished 11th grade, so he is not even a high school graduate. Since Zay is spending most of his days playing video games, probably Peter insisted that Zay should finish school and go for college or vocational school, and Zay doesn't really want to follow this "boring" path. So, Zay chose to move in with his gamer friend, where he can game all day long. After all, the gamer friend's mom already allowed the gamer friend to drop out of high school at age ~15 and do nothing productive with life. On his Instagram page, Zay mentioned he thought he didn't want to continue to live with Peter because Peter's household is too traditional/conservative. On one hand, Zay mentions on his Discord (the one in his IG bio) and Instagram that he is LGBT, so you could speculate that maybe he doesn't feel comfortable expressing that identity in Peter's household (this is just pure speculation, it could be totally false). But on the other hand I do believe Zay's primary motivation to move out is not really related to the LGBT thing, but more just because Peter imposes a lot of rules and structure in Zay's life to mold him into a responsible adult who will finish school and get a good job, which Zay is not interested in. I remember in prior videos, Peter always try to get Zay to follow some good habits, like less energy drinks and less sugar consumption, so probably Zay got tired of this nagging. In Zay's life, he has been in multiple foster families, so he is already habituated to temporary living arrangements, and if something is not working in the household then his solution is just to switch foster families. So he probably didn't bond all that much while living in Peter's house, so he doesn't see any problem with just leaving abruptly, because that's the life which he is used to. On his Instagram, he is already referring to his new cohabitants as his "new foster family", "sister", "brother", despite only knowing them for a couple weeks really (except his friend, for four years). We probably just find his departure jarring because we did not grow up in this kind of environment.

I was raised in a Christian home and I ran away at 17. I thought my life was boring and restricted and so I just left with no plan. I got pregnant at 18 and my life changed. I needed God. I completely turned my life around and it wasn't easy but it was worth it. Now that child is 22 and in vet school. God blessed me. Thank God my parents planted that seed for the Lord in me because when I cried out to God in desperation he knew me. And I knew his voice. My prayer is that the seed in Zay grows and he knows Gods voice in the chaos.

I think it’s a combination of he no longer wanted the structure you obviously provide. It’s not going to fare well for him if that’s the case. He just went from a loving structured environment ( in a beautiful house) to what looks like party central. I do think it was wrong that he gave you no warning, no heads up, not even a hey can we talk? Just decided he wanted to leave because it’s attractive to live elsewhere, and didn’t even want to come home to pack his belongings? You took him in, gave him a stable, structured, healthy environment. I’m sorry Peter. Give extra hugs to Anthony and the little kids

When I watch Peter's videos, I daydream how great our life would have been to grow up in a home and have a parent that genuinely LOVES YOU!

To Peter, please continue receiving the blessings of the Lord to share your love and guidance on these precious children.

Peter you’re too nice. This situation looks fishy, but Zay wants to find his way, so be it.

Lets just remember that without Peter's support God knows where Zay might be now. Peter provided the perfect bridge for him. People make their own choices in life and Zay knew 18 was his life line to do just that. My son experienced me and his father splitting up when he was 6 years old. My son lived with me. His father lived very far away, he barely saw him over the years. His Father was very difficult and never helped us or supported my son. Two weeks after leaving school my son basically told me he was going to live with his Dad and was leaving tomorrow!!! Also didn't tidy up room or pack things away. Later on I found out he'd planned it 6 months before but he didnt want to hurt my feelings by pre-warning me. I'm sure Zay also pre-planned it but felt the same. He knew he was in foster care for a reason but children have an innate desire to belong to their parents whatever has happened.

The amount of entitlement Zay has… Oh, Peter was supposed to give me MY bed anyway. Sure he’ll buy you brand new bunk beds. 😡 And never a word of thanks to Peter. I can’t believe he made Peter pack up all “his” things too. I would have said, “you want them? Come pack them yourself!” Peter is such a selfless and caring man!! Truly a rare soul. ❤️

I'm scared he is going to fall down a real dark path and into drugs if he leaves. We can pray for him.

Peter just be careful when co-parenting with the lady as she may ask for money for Zay, hope that Zay is thankful for the many times that you was there for him.

Peter is nobody’s fool this guy is a former street kid, believe me he knows what’s up , grew up in the hood of hoods , and education is the number one thing in African families it’s the way out of poverty and it stops the cycle . And it works .

I’m really surprised by how cold Zay seems here towards the little kids. This children have been through so much, why would he say “this is the last time you’ll see me and you probably won’t ever see me again.” I’m sure he’s going through his own thing and probably has trouble getting close to people because he kept moving families and what not, but still. It’s sad.

Zay I have been a social worker for 35 years, and this is a bad idea. I can't tell you how many kids like you age out of the foster care system, and aren't lucky enough to have a Peter in their corner. Peter offers stability, and I'm sure would make sure that you went to college, or a trade school. I'm not going to sugar coat it, I think that your mother, and her friend (your 2nd mom) are using you. I pray that I'm wrong, but I have experience in this area. Everyone on this page wants what is best for you, and this new living situation is not it. You can be closer to your biological mom without moving in close proximity to her. Also, the new brother? Where is his shirt? Mom's shirt? The shirt new "mom" is wearing, Sabaton, has been connected to white supremacy. I'm a heavy metal fan myself, and they are garbage, dark lyrics. Peter, you are smart man, please don't give these women money on Zay's behalf. Not saying that is what they are after, but I wouldn't be surprised if they had him ask you. Fist thing that woman says is, "You can help me co-parent, I'm a single mom, and I could use the help."

It is a very difficult task. He should have finished his education, gotten a job and then moved.

Zay will realize one day all that he gave up. He chose a sad, hard road. That trip to visit his bio mom changed everything for him… he looked different, he looked unkept on his return and now he has nothing. Incredibly sad.

Oh man. That boy where he moving in with has big problems I can look at him and his attitude and whole vibe and see it. And his mom has no control I can tell that too. God help Zay.

Wishing Zay the best! However this is a little concerning as a viewer. His abrupt exit shows a distinct lack of maturity and makes me think this is not the best decision. I hope I am proven wrong.

Seems like zay wanted an excuse for you to come to get the yellow bag. He said "because that means you have to come back". Also she said "You know what, you can always help me out w him". He's 18 & chose to leave so there's no reason to help support him in another household. Something doesn't add up.

He's at an age where he wants freedom. He doesn't know he is prey for the soul snatches and how they come in so many forms. I hope he goes to school and steadfast to his goals. He has an amazing mentor and parent figure in his life. He will look back at it when he is an adult and hopefully graps what it means to have structure and guidance in one's life.